Spørg en fyr: Når en fyr ikke forpligter sig på Facebook

kelly Jeg er i den samme situation, som vi har været sammen siden januar, han benægter, at han taler med kvinder, men jeg ved, han er, jeg vågnede i morges for at jeg var i et forhold med ham som i går aftes til hele forholdet snart skjult mit hoved jeg tror at han ikke vil være med mig men han fortsatte med at fortælle mig at han gør det, men hvis du virkelig gør hvad holder han forholdet skjult hvorfor skjulte han det i 1. sted efter ham, tænker jeg over, men jeg tror, ​​det er bare på grund af at være blevet såret så mange gange nogensinde ved, at han taler med kvinder, selvom han lyver for mig om det 13. juni 2018, 8:15 stephen g omg badgering en mand for at opdatere sin fb forholdsstatus er sådan et skolepige-træk! 7. november 2017, 20:23 stephen g en pige bryder sig meget om status for fb-forhold. en rigtig kvinde ville være ligeglad. 7. november 2017, 20:25 devilinheels90 Jeg har en lignende situation med min kæreste. vi er i langdistanceforhold i 2 år. han ændrede sin status til 'i forhold', men mit problem er, at han ikke postede nogen af ​​vores billeder på sin fb-væg (han besøgte mig i sidste måned, og vi tog billeder). hans forældre, søster, venner og fætre kender til mig / os. men han har stadig billeder med sin kvindelige ven, han mødte sidste år. Da jeg spurgte ham, hvorfor han holder hende der uden at nævne eller vise os, havde vi argumenter gennem tekster, før han ankom, og mens han var her. han sagde endda, at han vil tilføje vores billeder i album, hvor han har billeder af sin rejse her. det har været en måned, og vores billeder er der stadig ikke. han sagde, at han ikke ønsker at sætte billeder af os (taget for en måned siden), fordi - for at citere ham - 'Jeg vil ikke have, at mine forældre bebrejder min pige for eksamen, at jeg måske fejler'. på samme tid tilbringer han al sin fritid med en af ​​sine kvindelige fætre. da vi begyndte at sende sms'er for to år siden, ud af det blå, sendte han tekst om at gå på en date med * hot blond girl *, som fik mig til at blive sur. og så tilføjede han - hun er min fætter. vi har samme efternavn. efter det hver gang han talte om hende, understregede han * min fætter hendes navn *. Jeg sendte endda hende fb-anmodning, hvorpå min kæreste sagde til mig “du vil aldrig tage hendes navn fra mig”. hver gang hun har brug for noget, henter han hende og kører, hvor hun vil hen, de går til øde strande sammen, hun har ikke noget imod, når andre fejler dem for par osv. temmelig usædvanligt fætterskib for mig. Jeg spurgte ham endda, om de nogensinde var sammen, fordi hun engang sagde til ham “vi er ikke rigtige fætre, vores fædre er fætre”. og han beskyldte mig for at få dem til at ligne incest. men deres * handlinger * er typiske par ting (undtagen at gøre sig klar). så mine gætter er - enten forsøger han at skjule mig for den bestemte kvindelige fætter eller for andre piger, som han gerne ville datere før, men gjorde sig interessant nu, når der tages. p.s. undskyld for langt indlæg: $ 3. september 2017, 20:03 katie i devillnhells90 ~ jeg synes det er på tide for dig enten at begynde at være opmærksom på dette 'fætterskib ”. Jeg synes, du skal bede ham om at bringe dig med en af ​​disse datoer, fordi du gerne vil lære 'hans fætter' bedre at kende. hvis han ikke har noget at skjule, skal han være enig. Jeg ved, at nogle mennesker vil være uenige, men du skal sætte din inspektorgadget hat og gøre noget inspektionsarbejde. du er ikke usikker eller trængende eller noget. du har legitime bekymringer over deres forhold. vær ikke passiv aggressiv. vær foran og fortæl ham, hvor meget det generer dig, men vær hensynsløs med dine handlinger og let med dine ord. med hensyn til status og billeder er det et helt andet problem. to år skulle være tilstrækkelig for ham til at sende billeder. hvad jeg ville gøre er at sende billederne fra hans rejse til dig og tagge ham. voila;) ja, jeg får den fortrolighed, som charles taler om i artiklen, men hvis du har bekymringer, skal du helt sikkert tage dem i betragtning. for ei: i mit tilfælde fandt jeg temmelig flirtende tekster og endda et hook-up forsøg med en anden gammel fling. Jeg har bedt ham om at ændre sin status, og mens jeg får folk, vil de spørge (vi har været sammen i ca. 9 måneder nu), men vi mødes under forskellige omstændigheder. held og lykke, håber det hele fungerer. 10. oktober 2017, 20:30 karlee ja, enhver fyr, der nægter at anerkende et forhold, har noget at skjule. idc hvad nogen siger, hvis han ikke er stolt af at vise sin kvinde, så fuck dem. så simpelt er det. Jeg nægter at omgås en mand, der ser ud til at være single, idet jeg ved pokker godt, at han lægger en facade til sin egen narcissistiske dagsorden. været der gjort det! ændrer sig heller ikke med ægteskabet. dating og facebook generelt har og vil altid være forfærdeligt. 25 juni 2017, 19:39 layla ja, fyr er ikke i dig. undskyld, men sandt. han vil fremstå single og tilgængelig. du er ikke den, medmindre han ikke har noget problem med at ændre * status * uden at du spørger eller noget. Jeg har lige gennemgået dette, og han indrømmede, at han ikke var sikker. 23. marts, 2017, 9:43 am Johnny Singleton Jeg synes, at kvinder, der tænker sådan her, skal dumpe deres kærester og date facebook i stedet ... 21. oktober 2016, 6 : 38 am katie johny ~ nej, problemet med status på sociale medier for mig (og baseret på erfaring) er, at det fortæller andre mennesker, at han ikke er tilgængelig. der er ærlige mænd og kvinder, der ønsker deres privatliv intakt, og det er forståeligt. andre andre bruger dog “single” eller ingen status på sm som en undskyldning for at fortsætte med at flirte og gøre deres ting på siden, selv når de er i et forhold, det er hvad jeg tror - nogle henviser til. uanset hvor mange gange du tager det op, går det i døve ører. du er måske ikke sådan, men der er fyre der er der. 10. oktober 2017, 20:35 Johnny Singleton der er ingen skam ved at være single, hvis Facebook er mere vigtigt, gætter jeg…. 21. oktober 2016, 06:35 Johnny Singleton at lægge dit forhold på facebook er det værste, du kan gøre for dit forhold! alt, hvad der gør, er at invitere hele verden ind i dit forhold. det er virkelig dårligt med kvinder, når de begynder at lave passive aggressive indlæg om dig, når de er vrede på dig og sender 'wordporn' med henvisning til dig. Hvis du også vil holde dit forhold intakt, hold det fra facebook. han hjælper hende så vidt jeg er bekymret! 21. oktober 2016, kl. 06:30 suzi hvis du er 'privat' ... så skal du ikke være på facebook :) 29. august 2016, 5. : Kl. 14 georgina kan du finde alt på internettet. Jeg stillede dette om dette spørgsmål og fik et svar fra en mands perspektiv. så tak. dræbte mig. som om han ikke ønskede, at folk skulle vide det, og hvorfor? Jeg er så taknemmelig for dette. håber han vil tilgive mig for at være smertefuld. 9. juli 2016, 11:20 amanda mange tak for dette. det perspektiv, du gav om dette emne, er muligvis det, der redder mit forhold. Jeg har set en fyr i et par måneder, og vi har meget forskellige måder at tænke på. dette er et følsomt emne for ham, og nu forstår jeg, at problemet ikke er så meget for mig, som jeg troede, det var. tak igen! 11. juni 2016, 15:27 pam Jeg har det samme problem med min bf på fire år, jeg er ligeglad med status, men det faktum, at han.har . aldrig udsendt et billede af os dræber mig virkelig og sender billede med sin familie, venner og. selv ting. fra arbejde, men aldrig en af ​​os. Jeg tror, ​​han vil skjule det på sociale medier, jeg havde spurgt ham, og han siger, at han ikke kan lide det, men hvorfor sender han billeder med sine fyrvenner btw, og han kan ikke sende et enkelt billede med mig :( 10. april, 2016, 12:01 georgina der ville generer mig. Hvad gjorde du ved det? Lignende situation her. 9. juli 2016, 11:23 serendipity det er anderledes, hvis han bare ikke vil sende det, før han er sikker, eller måske slet ikke, men når han gør det til et punkt at få sin ansigtsbog til at se single ud, så andre piger kan kommentere og flirte med ham, og han kan flirte tilbage, er skør. han elskede det, da jeg skrev, at jeg var i et forhold, men aldrig ville gøre det på hans fb. også, han tekster hovedsagelig 4 piger og har sagt, at han stoppede og bad mig til at tilgive ham omkring 7 gange på 2 år. når han blev tilbudt en måde, at han kunne bevise, at han virkelig var ked af det, i stedet for jeg er ked af det og vil ikke gøre det igen. han ville ikke gøre det, det vil sige efter forholdet eller billeder af os på fb. han kan ikke se, hvor han er forkert, men ville have haft en anfald, hvis jeg gjorde det. vi er brudt op for sidste gang. så hvis han bare er en privat person og ikke er vildledende, betyder det ikke noget, hvad der er på fb, men når han vil skjule det, så andre piger, som han taler med, ikke ser det, det er en anden historie. 9. december 2016, 15:56 Johnny Singleton hvorfor lægger du bare billederne på din egen side? Jeg er sikker på, at du alligevel har fælles venner. 21. oktober 2016, 06:36 sara Jeg kommenterer normalt ikke disse ting, men jeg er nødt til at ringe ind. I ovenstående scenarie er jeg enig i, at man bør ikke forvente en Facebook-statusændring efter et par uger. men i min situation har min forlovede på et år (været sammen i tre) stadig hans status offentligt opført som 'single'. alt hvad jeg har bedt ham om at gøre er at fjerne det - ikke ændre det, men bare gøre det til 'kun mig', så det ikke længere er offentligt anført. Jeg har taget det op adskillige gange, men han nægter at ændre det. han har dog mig overalt på sin facebook i billeder og status, så jeg er ikke meget bekymret for det, men der er noget at sige om sagsprincippet. alt sagt, en facebook-statusændring til 'i et forhold' forhindrer ikke en mand i at snyde, hvis det er det, han vil gøre. alt det gør er at give os en falsk følelse af sikkerhed. Jeg kender for mange mænd (og kvinder), der er sammen, forlovede og / eller gift, som praktisk talt har gjort deres facebook til en helligdom for deres betydningsfulde anden, men snyder over dem. som sådan er mit forslag ikke at lade facebook diktere dine følelser omkring dit forhold, men det giver stadig ikke mening for mig, hvorfor nogen vil holde sig opført som 'single', når de tydeligvis ikke er, medmindre de ubevidst eller bevidst vil beholde deres valgmuligheder åbne. 10. marts 2016, 13:06 tabe hurtigste vej i retning af at eliminere mavepund? bellyfats.xyz 18. oktober 2015, 2:13 am antonia selvfølgelig er du en mandhakke. hvis ændringer sådan. 11. august 2015, 1:22 am gæst lav din fb-side, så han ikke kan se nogen info, ikke din forholdsstatus, venner, intet. det gør det. 19. maj 2015, 18:13 tara Jeg har et problem med dette. Jeg har været sammen med den samme mand i næsten 4 år nu. når jeg har tjekket hans facebook-konto, sagde det aldrig, at han var i et forhold med mig. da jeg konfronterede ham med det, sagde han, at han havde det sendt på sin facebook. Jeg har altid haft det på min. og da jeg så, at han lyver om det, fjernede jeg min status fuldstændigt. så blev han sur på mig! så jeg tog skærmbilleder af hans facebook for at vise ham, hvordan han slet ikke har en forholdsstatus på hans fb. og så blev jeg sur og uvenner ham for at lyve for mig. da jeg spurgte, hvorfor han har fortalt mig, at han har fået det sendt, men ikke har, undgår han at svare. for mig viser det, at han har problemer med at forpligte sig til mig. han introducerer mig som sin kæreste til nogle og andre som sin kone. dog sagde han, at hvis vi bliver gift, vil han aldrig bære en vielsesring. for mig skal det, der kommer ud af andres mund, også afspejles i deres handlinger. en mand, der ikke ønsker at være ærlig om en forholdsstatus eller have en ring, prøver at se single ud ... bryder mit hjerte ... 12. maj 2015, 12:12 pm administrerende direktør min partner ønskede ikke, at jeg skulle være hendes ven på facebook ... og lavede forskellige undskyldninger, såsom at hun ikke ville udsætte mig for det dårlige sprog, som nogle af hendes familie bruger. Jeg var ok med det, fordi jeg antog, at hun bare ville have sin plads. hun talte med mig ved en lejlighed om sin datters nye kæreste, så jeg tjekkede ham ud og bemærkede, at min partner var opført som en ven på hans facebook. hendes datters kæreste var god nok til at være Facebook-ven, men ikke mig? Jeg tænkte på at bede hende om en forklaring et stykke tid, men besluttede at bare dumpe hende og gå videre. 6. februar 2015, 08:02 laura hvad med en fyr, der hævder, at han er single og brød op med eks for to uger siden, men alligevel siger Facebook-status i et forhold? og ræsonnementet er, at han ikke ønsker at få en masse spørgsmål sendt til ham om, hvorfor forholdet sluttede? skal jeg stadig presse på for at han siger, at han er single? det virker bare fishy for mig, og har det ikke godt med at tale med en fyr, der viser interesse for mig, når det, han siger, og hvad der er online, ikke hænger sammen. 5. januar 2015, 16:22 georgina facebook meddeler ikke din familie og venner, at du nu er single. det vil dog, hvis du meddeler, at du er i et forhold. nogen bliver nødt til at søge på din side og finde, hvor det står din status for at finde ud af sandheden. 9. juli 2016, 11:33 missk tak for denne artikel, jeg undrede mig selv. og jeg er nu 35 år gammel, og han er 37 ... du synes oprindeligt, at det ikke er trivielt, men det er, og den sidste linje, du gav 'fokus på det virkelige liv', fik mig til at tro, at du ved, hvad det er, hvad jeg skal gøre. 5. januar 2015, 05:38 bianca Jeg har været sammen med min fyr i næsten 8 måneder, og vi bor sammen .. hvorfor har han ikke sat et billede op af mig på facebook endnu, men han har billeder af sine ekser, især hans seneste eks på facebook med billedtekster som om hun ikke er smuk eller er min sovende skønhed, men han kan ikke sende noget om mig. hvordan skal jeg tage det 16. december 2014, 16:37 chelsie rigtigt! Jeg har set en fyr siden sidste juni, han begyndte at introducere mig som sin g / f 6 måneder i, har ikke anerkendt offentligt på f / bi am hans g / f, har 3 billeder af mig fra sidste september, da vi tog en tur, men ingen ville vide, at jeg er hans g / f. han har ikke ændret sig, han har ikke ændret sin status fra 'single', så alle kan se på hans profil og ikke engang nej, han er sammen med nogen. hvis du ikke vil dele den slags information - lad det være tomt - har jeg ret? 21. marts 2015, 10:23 janet jeg kommenterede dette tidligere bc. Jeg vil have nogle råd om, hvorfor min kæreste holdt ham som single på facebook. godt nu har han et forhold, men har ikke hvem han er sammen med. vi har nu været sammen i næsten to år, og han har ikke billeder af mig eller noget, der viser, at vi er sammen. hver gang jeg bringer det op, ender vi med at komme i en diskussion om det. Jeg fortæller ham, hvordan jeg har det, men det ser ikke ud til at have noget for ham. hvad råd er der? 21. november 2014, 15:46 serendipity hej janet. vi har den samme situation. Vi havde lige et argument som for 10 minutter siden. vi dater også i 2 år nu. vi er i et langdistanceforhold og for mig er forholdsstatus vigtig. det betyder slet ikke noget for ham. Jeg er såret med hans ord, og jeg ved ikke, om jeg stadig kan klare det længere. han er i ny og jeg er på filippinerne. 8. december 2014, 12:17 janet godt, jeg er ked af at høre, at du går igennem det med dit forhold. Jeg synes også, at forholdsstatus er en meget vigtig ting, men mænd tænker ikke på samme måde som kvinder. desværre tror ikke alle fyre, at de har brug for at offentliggøre det for alle at se. men jeg synes, det er uretfærdigt over for kvinder, der har været i forhold så længe som vi har gjort. langdistanceforhold er svære at have og meget arbejde at beholde. men de kan arbejde, hvis begge parter ønsker det. hvis I to er glade, så giv ham ikke op endnu. Giv det tid og se om tingene ændrer sig. 10. december 2014, 20:41 lauren afslutter det. hvis han gemmer dig, er der en grund til det. han prøver at holde sine muligheder åbne. find nogen, der ikke er bange for at have en kæreste. 9. december 2014, 14:37 2hearts76 hvis en fyr virkelig er interesseret i dig, vil han være stolt af at hævde og vise dig især på facebook. hvis du er i et seriøst forhold med en fyr, og han siger, at han er single på facebook, holder han sine muligheder åbne. 19. november 2014, 12:58 sarah dette er alt sammen fint og godt, undtagen hvis han er i et forhold, hvorfor skal det så sige single? hvorfor ikke bare skjule status alt sammen? hvis der står single så tro mig pige - han ønsker at blive opfattet som single. undskyld. 18. november 2014, 19:51 valerie lad os ikke være naive her ... der kunne være en mulighed for, at han kunne ønske at vise sin 'single status', fordi han et sted dybt inde forsøger stadig at være åben for hans “muligheder”. Jeg synes, det er ret egoistisk af ham at prøve at få dig til at engagere dig fuldt ud, når han tydeligvis ikke gør det. det mest, han kunne gøre for dig, er at holde det tomt. 14. november 2014, 14:58 angelique dette er mere et spørgsmål, ikke en kommentar. hvis du har været i et forhold i nogen tid, og din kæreste har spærret for hans sociale netværk, skal det løfte røde flag, eller reagerer jeg lige over ?? 20. september 2014, 16:12 eric charles der slår mig som et rødt flag, men vigtigere, jeg synes det er vigtigt, at du bare bare kommer på det samme side om det med ham, hvis du er bekymret. fra mit perspektiv er det langt mere giftigt for forholdet at have bekymringer, der flyder rundt i dit sind og derefter forsøge at finde ud af, hvor du står ... end bare bare at have en samtale på en åben og ærlig måde. tricket er at føre den samtale på en måde, der er åben og ikke får ham til at føle, at han bliver hjørnet eller fanget på en eller anden måde. det er ikke, at fyre ikke vil tale om forholdsforhold ... det er, at de ikke vil føle, at de kommer til at forstyrre dig og derefter skal håndtere de følelsesmæssige eftervirkninger ... hvis de føler, at det er det, de er konfronteret med, vil de fleste fyre bare undgå samtalen eller lægge en mur ... det er ikke, at de vil såre dig eller lukke dig, mænd vil simpelthen ikke føle sig fanget i en no-win-samtale. den bedste måde at nærme sig på ville være ved blot at sige det, hvordan det er for dig ... noget som 'lyt, jeg vil ikke invadere dit privatliv og jeg vil ikke bekymre mig om dette, så jeg vil bare spørge dig noget ... og alt, hvad du fortæller mig, er fint, for så ved jeg i det mindste sandheden og behøver ikke at spekulere eller bekymre mig ... kan du fortælle mig, hvorfor du har blokeret mig på alle dine sociale netværk? ' og lad ham bare svare og lytte ... prøv dit bedste for at være åben og ikke angribe eller reagere ... giv ham plads til at svare ærligt (og de fleste mænd vil give dig deres ærlige svar, hvis de har lyst til at have et sikkert sted at have den samtale med dig) ... derfra har du klare oplysninger, og du kan træffe en beslutning om, hvorvidt hans årsag er et problem for dig eller ikke ... hvis det er, så kan du træffe en beslutning om, hvorvidt det er noget, du har kan overvinde eller, hvis ikke, at det er tid til at åbne dig selv op for muligheden for at forlade dette forhold. i alt dette vil jeg gøre det klart, at jeg ikke siger, at denne samtale undskylder ham, eller at det forventes, at du kan klare noget, der er uacceptabelt for dig ... hvad jeg siger er, at stedet at starte altid er at nå et tydeligt punkt i din situation og derefter være i stand til at træffe en klar beslutning baseret på klare oplysninger (ikke på grund af bekymring, spekulation eller frygt for det ukendte) ... du kan få nyheder, du ikke vil have, men i det mindste vil du have klarhed. bundlinjen: stedet at starte er at kunne have en klar samtale, der giver dig de oplysninger, du har brug for for at vide, hvor hans hoved er ... og for at gøre det, skal du være i stand til at have en åben samtale, sikkert og uden fjendtlighed. det er ikke for at undskylde ham, det er for at få den klarhed, du har brug for. 20. september 2014, 17:30 rebecca Jeg vil ikke røre ved min onlinestatus (den er tom ... ikke at der står, at jeg er single, hvis jeg ikke er) . min ekskæreste blev virkelig ked af, at jeg ikke ville ændre det. for mig ved mine “rigtige” venner, at jeg er i et forhold, fordi jeg fortæller dem. mine fb 'venner' er ikke bare venner, men folk jeg arbejder med, netværk osv. de behøver ikke at vide, hver gang jeg mødes eller går op med nogen. hvis noget, finder jeg det klæbrig og usikkert at skulle sende opdateringer som denne. Jeg kan kun antage, at det kunne være det samme, hvis en fyr ikke ønskede at ændre sin status. Jeg vil foreslå at spørge ham, hvorfor han ikke ønsker statusændring, men lyt, hvis han giver en grund som min. nu, hvis han lader sin status være 'single', og han nægter også at lade dig tagge ham på fotos osv ... der kunne være røde flag, men stadig høre ham ud, især hvis det er tidligt i forholdet. 13. august 2014, 3:11 am Johnny Singleton en fornuftstemme! det er netop det. mine virkelige livs venner ved altid med hvem jeg går sammen, og jeg behøver ikke komme på computeren for at fortælle dem. hvis facebook betyder mere end det, så går jeg ud med den forkerte kvinde! 21. oktober 2016, 06:43 Johnny Singleton for så vidt angår tagging af fotos. Jeg nægter alle tags, venner og familie inkluderet. 21. oktober 2016, 06:44 john det er sjovt at se alle mine damer kommentere dette, fordi jeg tilfældigvis er en fyr med en kæreste, så min situation, selvom det er anderledes i betragtning af at jeg er en fyr, kan jeg forholde mig. men min situation er anderledes i den forstand, at han ikke engang vil tilføje mig som en facebook-ven. Jeg har taget det op mange gange før og fortalt ham, at jeg er på facebook, men han ændrer bare emnet. hver gang han spørger om min dag eller noget, og jeg nævner, at jeg var ude med en ven, der hang ud, beder han mig straks om at sende ham et billede af, hvordan de ser ud (får mig til at føle, at han ikke stoler på mig), og han beder om et billede næsten hver gang. han sagde, at han bare kan lide at vide, hvem jeg taler med i disse dage, men jeg har bare ingen anelse. det ville være rart, hvis han i stedet for at skulle rejse facebooksituationen bare kunne tilføje mig, men i de 4 måneder, vi har været sammen indtil videre, tvivler jeg på, at der snart vil ske. 6. maj 2014, 18:03 georgina der ville genere mig. ligesom er han bange for at dele, at han er homoseksuel?!? eller ønsker ikke hans familie at dømme dig eller være en flok røvhuller, for de er ikke støttende? eller skjuler han noget andet? jeg føler for dig. forhåbentlig er tingene bedre nu. du skal tale og prøve ikke først at springe til det dårlige. 9. juli 2016, 13:54 regning enkel løsning: slet din facebook. Jeg ved ikke, hvor mange af jer, der er klar over dette, men folk gik tusinder af år uden at sende deres 'forholdsstatus' for alle at se. denne vrøvl om at fokusere på fb-status er intet andet end usikkerhed og mistillid på begge sider. 18. april 2014, 18.49 Johnny Singleton 100% enig! 21. oktober 2016, 06:45 namie du er en stor kujon !! du vil ikke ændre din forholdsstatus, fordi du vil være tilgængelig for andre piger !! jeg hader fyre sådan !! og jeg ved hvordan man skal håndtere dette !! slet alle billeder med din kæreste og skjul også din forholdsstatus !!! spille hans spil !!! 16. februar 2014, 10:37 Johnny singleton Jeg hader virkelig at bryde dette til dig ... en taget mand er generelt mere attraktiv end en fyr, der har været singel i lang tid . kvinder har tendens til at tænke som kvinder, når det kommer til mænd. Jeg har en ven, der fortalte mig, at han ville ønske, at han vidste, da han var singel, hvor meget han ville blive ramt af, når han havde en vielsesring på. han ville lige have købt ringen og været single! ha! 21. oktober 2016, 06:49 solyka min bf og jeg har været sammen i fire år, og vi har haft spids msking ham ændre sin status, men han har ikke ændrede det tilbage til 'i et forhold' siden sidste spyt for måneder siden. selv dengang måtte jeg næsten tigge ham om at ændre det. han er fotograf og bruger sin side til det, men også personlige ting, og han har masser af modeller opført som 'venner' der. får mig til at føle mig usikker. i starten troede jeg, det var bare skjult, men det var ikke kun det, men også sat på single. det er ikke som at have en gf påvirker sin fotograferingsvirksomhed ... 16. februar 2014, 05:01 stina hvis din kæreste ikke kan sende et billede af jer uden med angivelse af hans status ... rødt flag! Jeg har det samme problem efter at have været sammen med ham et år. der er masser af billeder af os på min fb-væg, men ingen på hans. hmm? en ven introducerede os, og den ven fortalte mig om den anden pige, at han ville have et forhold og havde fået nogle strukturer af dem på sin væg. han var ikke privat, men med mig, er han? bs !!! vi “tager en pause” nu, fordi min radar (tvivl) er op. damer, din mand skal altid være konsekvent. Jeg blev introduceret som hans kæreste for de venner, jeg mødte personligt, men ikke kendt overalt for sine andre venner. min radar indikerer, at han skjuler mig for nogen på hans venneliste ... enten kender den pige, han var sammen med, eller noget i den retning. en mand burde ikke have noget problem med at sige, at dette er min kvinde lige nu, om det fungerer efter et år, hvis det går ud. alle skal vide, hvem du er for ham! syge af mænd, der gemmer sig, de er virkelig! 7. februar 2014, 18:39 janet Jeg er i samme situation og har været sammen med min mand i et år og en måned nu, og alt hvad han har er i en forhold, og når jeg spørger ham, om vi nogensinde vil sætte os sammen eller sætte billeder af os sammen, bliver han sur, og vi kæmper, og det suger bc, han er mit livs kærlighed, og jeg har lyst til, at han skjuler mig for mennesker og lige i dag han fortalte mig, at han ikke vil have folk til at vide, hvordan han har det med mig ...: '( 3. april 2014, 16:22 sarah hej dette er ret betryggende, men hvis min kæreste kan lide et andet pigerprofilbillede hver gang hun opdaterer det. og for nylig lige har tilføjet en ny ven, der tilfældigvis er en model og også kan lide hendes billeder. Dette tyder på mig, at han ikke vil have 'bestemt' folk at vide, at han har en kæreste. 18. november 2013, 12:44 solyka min bf er fotograf, så han har en dåse modeller som 'venner' der og ændrer heller ikke hans status. 16. februar, 2014, 4:54 am lily oropel Jeg ønsker at konfrontere ham så slemt og spørge ham, hvem den kvinde er, og hvorfor, men han er ikke her. han kommer ikke tilbage indtil næste uge. Jeg er ikke engang sikker på, hvad jeg skal tænke over dette. Jeg tænker virkelig på at bryde med ham afhængigt af hans svar. Jeg elsker ham virkelig, og det gør ondt at se det ene billede af ham og den kvinde, og vi har slet ikke nogen billeder sammen på hans side :-( det mindede mig om, hvad han sagde før, at han ville ændre min fb-forholdsstatus og post billeder af os sammen, når det rigtige tidspunkt kommer. Jeg begynder at tænke, at det rigtige tidspunkt aldrig kommer, da han aleeady postede denne kvindes billede sammen med ham, og det får mig til at tro, at han allerede har foretaget sine valg og det er ikke mig. det har måske aldrig været mig overhovedet, og jeg er måske kun den eneste, der tænker på, at vi er et par og at være sammen efter alle disse måneder. hjælpe mig med at beslutte, hvem som helst? 28. september 2013, 3:30 am lilje oropel hvad med mig? Jeg har det samme problem. Først ændrede min bf og jeg ikke vores fb-status de første par måneder, at vi er sammen, da han finder ud af, at mænd fortsatte med at slå på mig og tilføje mig på fb eller tagger mig på fb han fortalte mig at ændre min fb-status til i et forhold, men ikke tilføje sit navn til det. jeg ændrede jeg t men han ændrede ikke sin status som en kendsgerning, hans forholdsstatus har altid været skjult. han sender ikke nogen af ​​vores billeder, og han vil heller ikke have mig til at poste vores billeder bare. det er hvad han siger. så i dag havde jeg bare et øjeblik til at tjekke min taggede konto og tilfældigvis se, at han tilføjede nye billeder for 2 dage siden og et af billedet id med en anden, pige jeg ikke kender til og jeg følte mig forrådt, skuffet, vred, ked af det og alt andet 28. september 2013, 3:19 am shaz hvis han kan lide dig, vil intet ændre det, ville han gøre alt og alt for at fortælle verden. ser ud som om han elsker en anden. du skal begynde at fokusere på at bremse tingene med ham. han vil foretage det skridt, hvis han virkelig ønsker dig. hvis han ikke gør det, så være det! der er altid fyre derude, der vil elske og værne om dig og vise dig ud til verden! 16. oktober 2014, 20:39 vivi hvad med når din bf ikke tilføjer dig på hans fb? 23. august 2013, 22:27 j ~ virkelig ?? alt dette frem og tilbage om facebook er absolut latterligt, imho. Jeg er personligt temmelig privat og måske lidt paranoid over for identitetstyveri, så jeg har ikke noget problem med, at tingene er private eller i en nøgleperiode. på Facebook. min tidligere kæreste følte sig anderledes. han besluttede, at jeg havde brug for at sende mit forhold, selvom jeg aldrig havde gjort det før, hvad enten jeg var single eller ej. så kunne han ikke lide, at jeg havde oprettet min venneliste, så mine venner (inklusive ham) kun kunne se fælles venner på listen. så skrev jeg ikke nok om ham, eller nogen syntes at kommentere for meget på de ting, jeg sendte (sjældent), det fortsatte og fortsatte. det virkede som den mest latterlige ting for mig, at facebook overhovedet kunne være et problem, fordi vi var i et forhold i det virkelige liv, og alle jeg så eller interagerede med i det virkelige liv vidste dette. det var udmattende, så jeg blev bare ven med kæresten og fortalte ham, indtil han kunne få fat i og opføre sig som en rationel, moden, respektfuld voksen, jeg ville ikke vende ham igen. det tog ikke lang tid, før den samme usikre og mistænkelige opførsel arbejdede sig ind i vores daglige forhold, og jeg fandt ud af, at jeg blev afhørt og skulle svare for, hvad der lignede alt. det var hans usikkerhed baseret på mange ting, men ikke en af ​​dem var noget skiftende ting fra del. hvis du har lyst til at du ikke kan stole på den person, du er sammen med, skal du først se på dig selv, så situationen. finde ud af, om det er dig, eller om de rent faktisk laver noget sketchy. hvis det er, skal du arbejde på det med dig, hvis det faktisk er dem, eller hvis du endog stærkt tror, ​​at det er dem ... gå videre. august 30, 2013, 9:20 am sapphyreopal5 i think that sometimes not changing the facebook relationship status can mean a sign of trouble as far as commitment and whatnot goes but this would have to tie in with other signs too. however, it also doesn’t mean you’re suddenly in a more stable or stronger relationship if he decides to publicly proclaim his relationship to others on facebook. i mean i think it’s one thing if you decide to ask him why just to see what he has to say on the matter but to pester him about it? i mean really, who wants to be pestered? you never really know what someone’s reasoning for things are until you actually ask. as some people have said, what if he doesn’t want to deal with the annoying facebook drama of people knowing when you break up with someone (“oh why did you guys break up?” yes i’ve had this happen before and it was quite annoying to deal with)? or what if his life is not spent on facebook and just doesn’t care enough to change it? i mean if you’ve met his family and friends (therefore it being obvious you’re dating), what’s the issue? relationships have been surviving (and dying) for thousands of years pre-facebook. if you really think that it makes that huge of a difference and is an all-telling one in that, the one with relationship issues is you (pretty serious ones in that too if you ask me). july 30, 2013, 8:01 pm sapphyreopal5 if you ask me, changing the relationship status on facebook to “in a relationship” should be more of a bonus so to speak and not an actual requirement. july 30, 2013, 8:02 pm lin i agree. changing a relationship and posting pictures, stories on facebook “should be more of a bonus.” depends on each person, couple as well. some who got a problem, however seem like they may have “a problem” because you’re actually supposed to just communicate why one side feel uncomfortable. i don’t refer to my bf on facebook at all. he posted our picture, and he wants me to do the same. i know it kinda sweet couples. but i explain him that i don’t feel comfortable sharing my photo on facebook, all kinda photos. it doesn’t mean i don’t accept him though. october 1, 2013, 8:49 am even i’m in the same dilemma and this is what i wrote to my boyfriend. i’m trying to understand for myself the reason why i want to be added in your fb list. it may sound that i don’t trust but really it’s just that i want you to entrust to me more and vice versa. if you love me and trust me then you know that i will respect the trust that you give to me and that includes your fb profile. i don’t mean that you link our profile as “in a relationship with…”. it’s just that your fb profile in a way is you or a side of you—and i want to know all of you coz i love you. if you have friends, colleagues and near perfect strangers in your list, why not me? no need to answer coz i believe action speaks louder than words. july 22, 2013, 7:33 am betty hi, i’ve been dating exclusive a guy for 3 mouths and we are in a ldr ( i know, i can’t believe it either :d), but he still haven’t changed his facebook status from nonexistent to in a relationship so neither did i. i know he likes me because we talk and text every day, he visits me every week and always brings me flowers, he introduced me to his closest friends and his brother and so did i (he also met my parents, his are dead) and he always listens to me and remembers the things i say (which i love because it means he really pays attention to me). things are great (at least from my point) and he says he wants a serious relationship with me and i caught myself wanting that too. he’s very patient and he waits for me (i’m 22 and a virgin, not because of religious beliefs/waiting until marriage/waiting true love, just because i had a string of unlucky short term relationships and, looking back, with guys i didn’t really trusted). i’m not saying i am a beacon of confidence and trust, but after reading a few posts here i realized a man can cheat on you even if is in another city just as well as he could do it if he was married with children. how he controls himself is up to him not me. the thing is i really like him and i do trust him more than any other boyfriend i’ve ever had. and i know he likes me because if he didn’t then why wait (i’ve told him from the start!), why spend money, why spend his time, why make the effort? he makes me feel beautiful, sexy, smart, funny and most of all, relaxed. he also makes me want to do things :”> now, he hasn’t said he loves me, only that he really likes me, but somehow that doesn’t bother me ( i think if he would say it, it would just seem fishy like he had a hidden agenda or just saying it just to say it). he has some tagged pictures with me on his facebook, but not the kind of kissy-lovely-couple-pics. my point is i want to change my status “in a relationship with____” just like i want to have sex. not to be a leash (because a status won’t stop him from cheating if that’s what he wants just like a weeding ring won’t either), but because i never had it, and, now, i’m fantasizing about it :”> i want all the world to know that i love and i’m loved and i want to post cute quotes or pictures on his page (he hasn’t forbid me that, i just haven’t done it because i don’t know how he will take it). so do i nicely bring it up or patiently wait? may 15, 2013, 8:19 am jo well actually, it’s not just about the relationship status now is it..? its about the public validation. for some people it’s hard to see when something does not have the potential to last the distance (i have witnessed my single dating girlfriends get crushed because they missed the vital cues that things weren’t that great)… now if a man is with you for over a year there should be no issue with making with the digital pda in facebook, who cares about the relationship status stuff it’s the other stuff.. it should be barrier free.. any man who makes up excuses about posting on his page when he’s decided to stick with you for a year is on the dodge side. if he doesn’t want pics of you two together on fb after a year, then he doesn’t want anyone to know because he’s unsure it’s going to last and is too lazy to go through the rigamarole of deleting pics post relationship.. key word, lazy.. not being bothered because something is too much hassle = lazy… (probably works out best for you if you leave him since you don’t need a big son to be intimate with). if you have to approach him on the issue then it’s best to do it in a pressure free way and only if you are absolutely sure he’s on the same page as you (and from what i’ve seen with all the talent t.v shows there’s too many deluded people out there, so find someone who isn’t deluded that has spent time with you and your man, who will be straight up with you and will give you the raw version of what they see – good or bad) and then tell your man that it would be great to see a tad more love/attention/affection from him on fb… doesn’t have to be mushy, it’s simply another forum that you two enter just the same as when you walk around town, go to events, the beach, hikes etc… men put a ring on the finger of the women they love in their attempt to show the world this woman is the one.. fb is like the new ring. p.s if my man was hiding me in anyway and making me unhappy, i’d let him know what i didn’t like in a pressure free way, why i didn’t like it, without placing blame, and i wouldn’t be sorry for feeling the way i do and asking for the things i want. partnerships are about being there for each other through thick and thin, giving each other what the other needs… unless you’re a vampire.. then you can forget it.. if it’s too hard then find a man who clicks with you, love yourself more and create the right environment (mentally) for the right man to sweep you off your feet and show you off to the world… may 12, 2013, 4:12 am sapphyreopal5 umm comparing facebook to the new ring is actually a pretty creepy comparison and would be all the more reason to not change one’s facebook dating status. really, people wear rings on a specific finger at least here in the states because they are engaged and are thus at least considering “tying the knot”. some people are more private and don’t really want others’ involvement and if it’s a mutual decision that’s fine. there are a multitude of reasons why the facebook relationship status may not be showing or whatever; whether or not it’s a sign of not being committed or being faithful is another story. if people are really into each other and have met each others’ friends and such, yet don’t really care to put it on facebook for whatever reason (assuming it’s a mutual thing), what’s the issue? july 30, 2013, 8:12 pm marie my bf and i have been in a committed relationship for about a year now. we are fb friends. both our status is hidden, and that’s not the issue to me. what is, i have commented about him and even posted a couple of pic’s. one of them i tagged and he deleated off his page, saying he didn’t like the pic of himself. i have met his family, spent holidays with them and more. i have met his best friends and co-workers, have been to events with all of them too. yet on his fb page he has never mentioned me or shared a picture of us. we have been out on rides, he has posted a picture of the ” ocean” or other beautiful sites and comments: ” out enjoying the day, hope you are too….” things like that. never says ” we”, includes me. now, he has many girl ” friends” on there. most of them are exes and whom he has been intimate with. one in particular he was dating, while seeing me before we were committed. maybe there are others too. i have brought this up once or twice before. in the past, he claims it’s his ” personal ” page. last week, a ” friend” posted twice about getting together with him. i finallly had enough, we had a pretty long discussion about it. he says he sees how this would hurt me, and plans on including me, announcing our relationship on fb. here is what still bothers me. it has now been 3 days, still no post. he had said twice the night we were discussing it, he would do it right then, and then the conversation got redirected and he never did it. i know he loves me. we spend a lot of time together, and talk about a long term future. i feel like, he is protecting someone, or hiding something…. he told the other women about me, that’s what he said. but i’m thinking, he played it down or something, like… i’m dating someone. something is not sitting well and my gutt is telling me, he is delaying this post for a reason! hvad synes du? april 26, 2013, 1:12 pm jo my ex cheated on me with a girl for a few months, he later came clean, begged me to take him back and to have babies with him. his fling (i call her that because he told me he never really liked her) posted pics of them together.. he deleted all of them and untagged himself because he didn’t want to ruin his chances of getting back with me. your story sounds exactly how i would expect the other girl to be writing about her experience with my ex.. hope you’re not her because no one deserves to be treated like they are not that important. and he needs his butt kicked. anyway… he lied to her about why he didn’t want to be with her (well, that’s if he even told he didn’t want to be with her, he could have been lying to me with his brand new cheating and lying record and he’s a chicken sh*t when it comes to people not liking him). we had been together for 9 years so i gave him a shot to work things out with me… the thing i learned the hard way is to ‘always’ trust your gut, it’s your intuition. if something does not sit right with you then trust what you feel. hit him up, if you still feel something isn’t sitting right, don’t over look it, always listen to your intuition.. always.. prepare yourself for short term pain with long term rewards… when you know that pain is only temporary (physical and emotional) you approach things differently and can make decisions for your next move without fear based craziness… so whatever you decide to do.. just remember, there’s a thousand perfect matches out there for you.. he just happens to be ‘one’ of those matches… hit him up if you think it’s worth it otherwise make yourself even more fabulous and let a new love enter the marie zone. may 12, 2013, 4:26 am ali i never showed my relationship status and not active, as well as my bf. when we got in a relationship for 5 months ago, we didn’t go anything about that, like the last thing we’ll talk about. he broke up with me and now we got back for like 2 months. this time he started mentioning why i never posted anything referring to our relationship. for me i wasn’t ready now, cause i don’t want it to be like facebook drama too. november 19, 2012, 1:49 am i need advice i have been dating this guy for 5 months now. he has introduced me to all of his friends and family, so i know he’s not ashamed of me. in the beginning of our relationship he cheated on me with an ex. then, a couple months later i caught him sexting other girls. he is still friends with some of these girls on facebook that i caught him talking to. his facebook is completely blocked from anyone commenting on his page or seeing that he’s online. his relationship status on facebook is hidden to where no one can see it. i have asked him to change his status to “in a relationship” and to make it public. i think it is more of a trust issue here, where i need this to make me feel more secure and help me gain his trust back. in my head i want these girls to see that he is in a relationship to help put my mind at ease. when i brought this up, he got really defensive saying he doesn’t want people knowing his business. he doesn’t want his relationships to be determined by what’s on facebook. am i wrong to push this issue? november 11, 2012, 1:09 pm cc you are right to feel “insecure” but if you are and he’s not trying to ease your mind then in his mind you’re not his girlfriend. you’re the girl that he’s with right now and if the other women know about you he’s either going to pass them up or tell them what he needs to tell them to see if he wants them to be his girlfriend. if you are broken up by now because of that, well you know why now. that is what this article is about, asking him makes him feel pressured if he is not ready for something that serious (particularly with you but with anybody too). february 26, 2013, 11:55 pm mk1980 well i had a friend with benefits on and off for years, well the last time he was acting wierd about me coming to his house to drop off his watch that he left at my house, so i looked him on fb and saw he is in a relationship so i was repulsed that he would use me to cheat on his gf. i am not big on facebook and i never friended him, but his profile was public. so ladies just because you are facebook official does not mean he is going to be faithful. quit being insecure and enjoy who you are dating, plus you look stupid if it only last a few months…all my long term couples i know dont change their status and they have been together for 10 plus yrs. in my opinion i really dont like people knowing my personal business on fb and i am female… october 16, 2012, 6:08 pm johnny singleton i hate to say it but that’s pretty much the consequence of friends with benefits vs a relationship. october 21, 2016, 6:57 am tina i have trust issues with my boyfriend that i have tried to be getting over. he’s never cheated, but i have problems with myself in which i paint scenarios in my head and overthink too much. i’ve broken up with him three times, and gotten back together each time. it’s been a month since the last time we broke up, and we’re doing a whole lot better than we’ve ever been doing, but when i asked him to change his relationship status this time, he refused saying that he didn’t want to because i still haven’t trusted him yet. is that a legitimate excuse? august 15, 2012, 6:32 pm rose bailey thanks for this post eric! very interesting topic the whole facebook relationship status. i’m not one to place too much emphasis on facebook but i do have to ask a question, a guys opinion would be great but i’ll be happy to hear anyone’s opinion. my boyfriend and i broke up about 2 mths ago. i still have pics of us in my albums and still displayed in my profile pic album (not my curent profile pic). i want to work things out with him and we are still in contact. he still has all of my pics in his other albums and pictures of us that clearly state we were together as a couple in his profile pic album. everyone knew we were together (not just on facebook). he was very happy to announce it on facebook back when we started going out. we have never changed our status to single but we both hid our relationship status on our profiles after breaking up. when we first became friends on facebook, when i knew he liked me, he quickly deleted all evidence of past girlfriend (he never had pics of them together as profile pics posing like he did with me, they were just pics where they were tagged together at a couple of outings). i also did the same with my previous ex. my question is; “if a guy still has pictures of you in his facebook albums does this mean he is still into you?” july 5, 2012, 5:42 pm alexia omg!!! really people?? facebook status vs relationship in real life? i’m a girl, i have a boyfriend for 1year, we live together, i know his family/friends, he knows my family/friends, we are very serious but i don’t want to change my relationship status on fb and he does ask about it. we just don’t care. i have friends that are married, with children and they haven’t change their fb status, one of my best pal has been in a relationship for 10 years and in fb he is in a relationship with his best friend. i don’t get all the fuss really. i love my boyfriend but i don’t get the meaning of putting that ina page for my 5k00 contacts!! my real friends, the one that really matter to me, they know about it. and let’s be honest i hate some of my friends that have 10 or more relationship changes in one year..: fb means nothing today. really girls do you really think that because he just change a little thing on his profile he is going to be more commit to you?? july 5, 2012, 1:23 am confused gyal i’m a girl who has been dating a guy who is younger dan i am for about 2months,at first he said he likes fat girls because i am,but now i’m finding out he actually likes slim girls,he shows me to his friends but he has neva tried to add me on facebook,i didn’t try either,funny tin now is dat he’s been behaving suspicious for bout two weeks now,he no longer calls or say ‘i love u’he always acts tired n cranky,so i checked him out on facebook,he always uploads pictures of his girlfriends who are always slim as iv noticed but he hasn’t even tried to upload ours,the real problem now is he has uploaded anoda pix of a girl n him on facebook,i asked him n he said she’s just a friend,how can u upload a pix of u ª?ð just a friend @1 a.m in the mornin,wen u don’t even av ur so called girlfriend there,is he cheating?or is he ashamed of me ª?ð cannot upload our pictures on facebook?i’m not even sure he loves me anymore,although he insis ts he loves me ª?ð dat i’m his only girlfriend,he just won’t let me go,i tink my boyfriend is a snake…. may 21, 2012, 4:16 am grace this took me 5 minutes to understand what you were saying… he is probably cheating on you. june 28, 2012, 4:10 am hc haha!!! :0 august 29, 2012, 7:09 am sss me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 years exactly now. in the beginning he had his status to in a relationship and did it himself by himself because he loved everyone to know he had me. as time went by our relationship has never been straight forward always rocky and now he doesnt have anything there. he’s known to be back in the day a very flirtatious type, and in the past he’s lied about alot and we broke up for months in between but were back together and now on his profile is a girl he’s just become friends with and i asked him he said doesn’t ring a bell. i feel like this is obviously at a deeper level but idk what to do, is he a cheater? march 24, 2012, 5:10 pm titania also, this whole thread is hilarious. if you look at the comments, you’ll realize that the original post is a lame excuse, and that for most of the women who aren’t being relationshipped on facebook, the guys with whom they’re involved are playing them like a piano. march 24, 2012, 2:41 pm eric charles maybe… maybe not. march 24, 2012, 2:50 pm titania exactly. march 24, 2012, 2:57 pm marg titania, how solid could a relationship be if it all depends on what a person’s facebook status is set at? do you really think that a man’s commitment to a woman is measured by what he puts on his profile? or perhaps is it a combination of the time, effort, and affection he puts into her? relationships are built on trust not a facebook relationship status, and women who place so much importance on such trivial matters tend to overlook so many valuable parts of their relationships. if a woman is insecure about something like that there is a bigger issue on hand. also, your man’s failure to post his relationship status is absolutely no excuse to cheat. if it’s that important to you and you don’t get your way break up with the man. bottom line is a man is going to be loyal or unfaithful regardless of what his relationship status says. there are dozens of ways for a person to express to the world that he adores his woman, but the things that are most important are the things that happen when no one else but the two of you are around. –marg march 25, 2012, 6:08 pm titania a solid relationship does not depend on, nor is created by, a facebook status. you have it backwards. the status *points* to the man’s intentions with the relationship. 95% of the time if the guy won’t change his status, it’s a red flag that his intention is not monogamous commitment. exceptions do exist, but they’re just that – a minority occurrence. april 4, 2012, 3:14 am eric charles haha, titania – ok, now that was a good point… . … and i couldn’t agree more. it is kind of a funny idea to think that getting a guy to change his facebook status = a better relationship. the relationship itself is what people should be looking at… not a dumb website where people post pictures of their cats and “duck-face” mirror self-shots. april 4, 2012, 12:18 pm titania well, eric, the thing is i don’t have a bone to pick. i’m ecstatic in my committed relationship to the man of my dreams. all i bring here is my logic and good high iq (lol) and my observations of my own experiences and those of my women friends. that said… i have no idea what you’re getting at, because i haven’t yet seen anyone claim in these comments that their relationship is being ruined by their lack of a facebook-confirmed relationship. no one has come here saying, “my boyfriend won’t ‘ship me on facebook. how can i convince him to do it so we’ll have a better relationship?” bullshit. the question everyone’s asking is, “my boyfriend hasn’t ‘shipped me on facebook. when you paint that into the picture of him doing xyz that obviates cheating or disinterest, does this mean he’s not that into me?” yes. yes, bitch, it usually does. i don’t take kindly to guys trying to wear down our justified suspicion with pseudo-logic. it’s practically gaslighting. “no! i’m not cheating on you. you’re crazy! that naked girl in my car was my second cousin. she was changing because she spilled soda on herself while i was driving her home from visiting our sick aunt in the hospital. how can you be so heartless! also, i can’t relationship you on fb yet because i’ve been hurt so many times, etc. etc.” lol! come on, eric. you can’t kid the kidder. i know all the lies because i invented them all. ;-p may 21, 2012, 10:25 pm eric charles titania, . using big vocabulary words doesn’t make you right. for whatever reason, people on the internet think that if they throw around fancy terms (like “obviate”, “gaslighting” and “pseudo-logic”) that they’ll intimidate the reader into thinking, “oh gee, this person must be right…” . oh and blatantly saying you have a high iq… nice touch. . any time that i see someone obviously straining to look intelligent, i know that they’re setting up an angry tirade and then justifying their own anger, frustration and bitterness. . the formula is this: . step 1) try to appear intelligent. step 2) go on an angry rant. step 3) attack the author and try to make it look like their point was just ridiculous. . sorry, not going to work here. . i disagree with your *opinion*. it is based merely on your own personal experiences and frustrations. periode. may 22, 2012, 10:37 am max of the many things wrong with titania’s logic… let’s start with this one, keeping it short and sweet, much like me. here’s why we don’t want to accept your facebook relationship: it’s a control thing. you’re trying to control your man. you want to lose a guy fast? try to control him. if he’s not accepting your facebook whatever, he’s not cheating. he’s probably still into you, chill. it is not “gaslighting.” lol. gaslighting = gaslighting. also, if your amazing “poontang” hooks up with another guy because he’s willing to change his fb status, well… like the wise philosopher willy d once said, “you gotta let a ho be a ho.” i don’t even know how i got here. june 3, 2012, 6:17 pm eric charles meh. march 24, 2012, 2:28 pm ozblonde dont you love face book. im amused with some peoples relationship status changes.i know the guys to keep away from..his in ,hes out,hes in,hes out .i truly wonder what they consider a relationship to be. i guy pressured me into updating my status once.my son was shocked,it was news to him. eric.i would expect a guy after a certain period of time..perhaps getting close to a year to update his status if i was his partner.screw what others might think. yes i want a man to let the world know ,hes happy with me and has hopes of sailing off into the sunset. not too soon though.i wouldnt pressure him if he wasnt comfortable and i was feeling secure.have to be honest, part of me would be a tad suspicious.i dated a cheater who made up all sorts of fb excuses. march 11, 2012, 4:31 am marg it’s always important to ask yourself why you want something when you want it, and to be sure of what it is that you actually really want. anytime you approach a person with a request you need to know what the underlying foundation of your desire is in order to truly be able to come to an agreement in a matter. for me, i’m with my boyfriend for two years now, and on my profile it says “in a relationship” and when i posted it i did send a request for him to acknowledge that he is the “with______” but he didn’t acknowledge it. now does that mean he doesn’t want anyone to know that he is with me? absolutely not, and i would be a fool to believe that’s the case. i don’t know why it’s so important to him to keep his relationship status private, but the truth is it doesn’t really matter therefore i don’t care. he has photos of he and i together in his albums, photos of me alone, and when i post something to his wall he leaves it up; if that’s not public cyber validation then i don’t know what is. sure i want my status to say “in a relationship with _____” but what i really wanted is for the people in his life to know that i’m the girl he’s in a relationship with… and that he has made very clear. peace, –marg march 6, 2012, 2:39 pm mallory marg, i think you’re failing to see the argument. it’s one thing if your guy has pictures of you and him on his profile, mentions you here and there on his page, but its another thing entirely when there is no acknowledgement of him being in any type of relationship. if a guy doesn’t want to declare his relationship publicly online fine, but he shouldn’t be posting pictures and making statuses that give the illusion that he’s single. that’s not only deceptive, it leaves an open door for inappropriate relationships with other women. also, it’s an issue if a man’s status says all together that he’s single, when he’s given the woman he’s been seeing for some time, the impression that they are together. if a guy doesn’t want to post a relationship status, fine, but don’t send mixed signals about your love life with questionable statuses and pictures…and yes, i have to quite agree with titania, marg, i highly doubt titania is referring to relationships where the man does introduce a woman as his girlfriend to everyone when out, and has pictures of them together all over his page. i’m quite sure titania is referring to the type of man that gives no inclination or hint of a relationship with a woman, that he has–more importantly–led to believe is his woman. (sometimes i think women on these sites are almost too eager to allow men excuses, as a way to appease them. but i think most of you taking aim against titania missed the circumstances she was specifically referring to.) march 16, 2014, 10:43 pm emily i have been seeing a guy for a little over a month, and we had the exclusivity talk about a week ago and both decided we wanted a commitment, but he said he didn’t want to rush things. well two days ago he asked me to be his girlfriend. yeah, a little old fashioned, but it’s like a flat out way of saying i want to commit to you. the next day i changed my relationship status on facebook to in a relationship with his name. he said he was going to accept it next time he went on his computer. it’s been over a day and he hasn’t accepted it. it still says he’s single which i don’t like cuz he’s not. w’re in college people use their computers all the time. i don’t think he goes on facebook as much as some people do, but i don’t know. i know it really hasn’t been very long since i sent the request but it still bugs me a little. not sure what to think of it. january 25, 2012, 9:34 pm mallory wait. so asking someone to be your girlfriend is a bit old fashion…jesus no wonder there are so many single girls out here, unable to keep an actual boyfriend. i mean, if the question is never asked then how on earth do you know if you are free to date other people or not…good grief the mind of women these days, no wonder men don’t bother. march 16, 2014, 10:48 pm pissed off my bf and i have been together for about 1 and a half years. we share everything (or so i thought we did). my problem isn’t about him displaying his relationship status, it’s about letting me see his facebook profile. i’ve never seen it, he rejects my friend requests and part of the reason is his friends bullied him and me when they found out we were talking/seeing each other. we broke up cos of that. he continued seeing these friends while we were getting back together, he hid that truth from me, i found out and ended things, he realised his mistake and vowed to cut them out of his life and we’re back together. he has stopped seeing these friends because they really hurt me, although they dont know he’s with me. but they still remain on his facebook. he says he keeps them there to ‘keep an eye on them’ and he doesnt use facebook much. he’s told me on two occasions to remove pics of me and him on my profile incase his friends see it and start trouble again. i’ve listened yet he refuses to answer me when i ask why he wont let me see his profile and we’ve been fighting cos of this for 2 days whereas he could’ve just shown me if he has nothing to hide. he’s seen my profile ages ago yet he doesn’t want to show his to me. he says clearly that he is not hiding anything. i want to believe him but can you blame me for not accepting that? i’m pissed off and fed up and having had my trust already broken, he’s not helping us build it back up. i even tried to sympathise with him and asked if it’s just about him wanting some things to himself and he confirmed that. but it still hurts and bothers me. january 20, 2012, 12:02 pm emily i honestly think you have a reason not to trust him. it has moved beyond just an innocent misunderstanding if you guys have been fighting and breaking up because of it, and the whole thing with his friends. a relationship involves both of your lives together which includes including each other in each others friend groups sometimes. doesn’t sound like the kind of person you should be wasting your time with. january 25, 2012, 9:36 pm jenna im 17 dating a 23 year old guy we have been dating for six mo0nths… because he is my first boyfriend. i do want to change my facebook relationship status and he always kept it single and i did beg after 3 months and he refused. his reason was our age difference. from the beginning and everytime i wrote on his wall he would delete it and every single picture i would post(which was from the holiday we went on) he would untag all the photos of me and him,he also put a password on his phone and then one day it was unlocked so i checked it and it was a conversation between him and this girl he was previously seeing and he denied to her that him and i were dating and this was our 5 months.. am i just trying to tell myself everything is ok? or am i completely wrong and he could be cheating..? i really need help january 15, 2012, 4:09 pm jaded girl yes, he is cheating and trying to keep his options open. january 20, 2012, 3:10 am emily yeah i dont know exactly what he’s doing but i wouldn’t trust him. january 25, 2012, 9:38 pm mallory your mistake was thinking you could actually date a 23 year old guy while you’re 17. he’s a man, you’re a child. your competition are women, you’re in high school, he’s either in college or working in the real world. either way, you two aren’t evenly yoked. it’s almost cute–naive–but cute, when i see high school girls dating men, but i’ll help you out for future sake…i’m rather mature for my age and have always been attracted to dating older, but one thing you need to ask yourself before entering a relationship where its clear you’re in different stages of your life (hs vs. adulthood–responsibilities aside from hw and getting to school on time), what is it that this man wants with me? and more importantly, why can’t he find it with women his own age? not every guy has a jerk motive, but a lot of times when a man is dating a woman–scratch that a teenager still in hs–while he’s an adult, it’s usually an ulterior motive. there’s the possibility of control, whether physical or mental, and a sense of security, because usually the man in this position will have considerable power over the younger, unsuspecting female. in your guys case, and given your instincts, i’m pretty sure it’s clear what’s happening (or happened given the time stamp of your post). march 16, 2014, 10:55 pm laura the guy i’ve been seeing for around 6 months took me off his facebook as a friend. he says it’s because his ex-girlfriend used to facebook stalk him pretty much, but i just don’t see why he’s grouping me in with her and why he refuses to be my friend on facebook. is he hiding something or am i just blowing this up? december 19, 2011, 9:07 pm jaded girl he is hiding something. january 20, 2012, 3:11 am rose my boyfriend and i have been dating for six months and he doesn’t have me as his g/f on facebook but i don’t really care about that. what bothers me is that he doesn’t want me to post on his facebook page because he says anything i can post on there i can just text. but when i wanted to leave a clip from this movie that reminded me of a way he laughs at me he said no and i asked him why and he said just that he didn’t want me to. we never take pictures together because he says he doesn’t like the way he looks in pictures. he’s had me go to family functions and group outings with his friends. i don’t know whether to take him for his word or if he’s making excuses. he’s in his thirties and i’m in my twenties so i’m not sure if it’s an age thing or the fact that he’s been married but i am really upset about this and i’m not sure what to think anymore. december 6, 2011, 2:11 pm paula i found this to be very helpful. tak skal du have! november 18, 2011, 11:29 am eric charles cool, i’m glad. :) november 18, 2011, 11:54 am nia great advice eric! but i am confused. i still don’t understand why men don’t want to “show off” their prize, so to say. i have been in a couple of relationships where a guy doesn’t seem interested in publicizing our relationship on facebook, myspace, twitter, etc. but when i break up with them they don’t mind posting pictures or even whole albums of their new girlfriends, even gotten married. i have finally concluded that it was me all along! alligevel. their relationships don’t last. but can you specifically tell me why i wasn’t chosen to put online like their “trophy” women? november 13, 2011, 8:21 pm eric charles hey nia, . i think you have the answer right there: when he sees you as a prize of trophy, then he wants to show you off (not to say that he sees you as *only* a trophy or anything…) . it’s not about the girl though, it’s about the feeling he know has because he’s with her. . i know that might be hard to wrap your brain around, but think of it like this: when apple comes out with a new product, apple customers can’t wait to get it and whip it out in public, talk about it, play with it for no reason, etc. . but you don’t see them doing that with a 2nd generation ipod from 2007. why? because it’s not “cool” anymore – the “i’m cool because i have this new toy” effect isn’t there and so it’s not a prize… it’s just an older piece of electronics that plays mp3s. . relationships have feelings associated with them too. . sometimes, two satisfied people who love themselves and love their lives come together… and because they are “full” and happy… and because they want each other, but don’t need each other… their relationship flourishes and they intoxicate one another with great, amazing feelings and can’t wait to plaster facebook with 20 albums of their new-found love. . unfortunately, in many other cases one or both people come together with baggage, dislike for themselves and dislike for their life. they lean on the relationship like a crutch, trying to use it to fill the void within them. it might work at first, but very quickly that person (with the baggage or insecurity) sucks the other person dry with their neediness and the other person withdraws. . i don’t mean to sound cruel or offensive, but without sugar-coating my message: nobody thinks of a parasite as a trophy. (not talking about you personally, talking in general about the opposite extreme of the spectrum for the love drunk fools that post a billion facebook pics.) . and as a cruel twist of reality, when someone is dating a needy person (or had dated one), they will be irresistibly drawn to a non-needy woman. her presence (and essence) will feel like a refreshing breath of fresh air after having previously being held underwater, unable to breathe. . he will have relief from the suffocation of the last girl’s guilt-inducing neediness and feel free… which will only heighten his feelings of levity that he found his “true love”. . it’s not to say that he’s not truly into the new girl, but the *relief* that he’s experienced combined with the happy feelings of new romance is an unbeatable and irresistible combination… he will be intoxicated with feelings. . sorry if any of that came off as harsh – not intended to be… only want to help! hope i did. november 18, 2011, 1:12 pm nia wow! can’t believe this thread is still accepting comments and you’re still answering them eric!! well, here is an update from me. i’ve been in a new relationship since 2012 and we’re moving in together next month! whoo hoo! my new guy doesn’t have fb, twitter, instagram..any of this! whew! sigh of relief! :-) november 18, 2014, 9:59 pm honey88 ok so my question is this, i v been with my guy for 2 years on and off, he still aint changed his status on fb and he hasn’t even got me as a friend, one of his friends was on the phone to him and heard my voice and must have asked the question if we was back together from what it seem , he ignored it and just said some thing stupid and laughed it off , he still hasn’t met my family and he still hasn’t got me to meet his , i m getting really annoyed because i love him dearly but don’t want to waste my time and get dumped by him again like i did last october , his exhuse was he needed to sort himself out and 2 months later we was back together , now i m a very smart and good looking girl , em i wasting my time on him and will it end in tears ? that’s my tears november 13, 2011, 3:05 pm eric charles yeah, i guess you found yet another benefit of facebook. :) makes sense – some people are liars and i have no sympathy when they get caught and pay the price. i stopped updating my facebook pics almost entirely because pictures of me with girls would upset other girls i was dating or had dated. i finally had enough – locked down my profile and stopped sharing pictures. not worth the aggravation for me, personally. sorry your situation turned out that way – but fortunate that you know the deal and can move on to greener pastures. september 30, 2011, 12:21 pm anonymous oh and also, he was never a friend on my facebook and my page is set to private. i don’t care anything about setting my status on there either. my status has, is, and will always be hidden. i am a very social person and pictures are always posted. as far as i was concerned, our picture was just added to the album. i came to ask eric because i couldn’t understand why he would get so pissed about it. unfortunately, the next day i learned he was living a double life. so in this situation, thank goodness for facebook! it saved me from wasting any more time on that douchebag! :) september 30, 2011, 1:26 am anonymous actually, i am 26! and we had been dating for 6 months. if i hadn’t posted the picture on facebook then i wouldn’t have ever found out he was cheating on me. so, think again before telling someone they need to get their priorities in order! september 29, 2011, 9:56 pm eric charles well i guess that settles that… september 30, 2011, 12:15 am diane what has this world come to when one has to question whether or not their relationship is the real deal by putting it on facebook. hopefully the guest asking this question is a teenager and understandable she wants her friends to know who her man is…but if their over 25 you need to get your priorities in order and maybe there’s a reason his status remains a secret from the world! september 29, 2011, 9:50 pm jaded girl it’s not about the relationship being real or not real by a social website. january 20, 2012, 3:15 am anonymous what does it mean if he gets mad i uploaded a picture of us on facebook? last night he told me he how much he truely cared about me and said he loved me. but today, i actually accused of him of seeing other women because he couldn’t give me a reason why our picture on facebook would make him mad. needless to say, it’s been almost 24 hours since i’ve texted him or called me back. he hasn’t tried to help this situation at all either. he wrote a text that said ‘no’ after i told him ‘have fun with your other women and forget about me.’ is he playing games? september 27, 2011, 5:02 am eric charles i can see where the guy’s coming from… . he’s just starting a relationship with a girl, he’s starting to have feelings. then, without his consent, an “announcement” is made to all of his friends, co-workers and family that he might be seeing this girl. . his ex-girlfriend messages him, “who’s this new girl?” his aunt sally messages him, “oh, my little billy has a girlfriend!!” his lacrosse buddies start making fun of him for being “locked down” by a girl. . he didn’t ask for all that crap… and he if he could avoid it, he would. it’s annoying… most guys are private about their dating / relationship lives. even their sex lives – women tend to be the ones who spill all the gory details about all-things sex and relationship. guys like to be private. . so i don’t think he’s playing games. i get weirded out when girls put pictures of me on facebook unless i’ve known them for a while. . problem is, instead of calmly trying to understand where he’s coming from or just letting it go, you accused him of seeing other women (basically calling him dishonest and having bad intentions). that would be enough for me to dump a girl if she did that with me… . just saying… . i would get in touch with him and try to understand and just remain calm. facebook weirds some ppl out, it is what it is. september 27, 2011, 8:02 pm i_love_audrey_hepburn i would personally be very dubious of how much a guy cared/loved a woman if he was too ashamed to have the pride to admit he was in a relationship. eric’s privacy comment aside, i think nowadays a lot of women (and i wonder how many of the above this applies to) think they are in a full blown, committed relationship…whilst from his perspective he’s just killing time and exploring his prospectives? i would only be happy to be in a relationship in which a man is happy to announce that he is exclusive to his special woman. there is pride and honour in that. i think women with low self-esteem tend to settle for so much less, badgering a man into a relationship, or trying to get him to change his status – facebook or otherise just makes men run in the opposite direction. ladies, please, it is so undignified to chase a man or pressure him into something he doesn’t necessarily want or isn’t ready for. don’t do it! july 3, 2011, 8:22 am lisa i think it’s nice to show relationship status. it means you want people to know and are proud to be with that person. yet at the same time i understand the thinking that it’s not anyone else’s business. i’m a very private person. i don’t ever do wall posts and have barely any profile info or pics but i do show relationship status. if you’re worried about the drama of it showing up in news feed just delete it from your wall immediately. or if you’re worried about changing it after you break up and that showing up in news feed just hide your status to avoid the drama of people asking you what happened!! may 10, 2011, 11:17 pm ashley. i believe its a little stupid to show it . i think its basically insecure girls that feel that way no offense to anyone. im just saying if you truly trust him i don’t think it truly matters. i think relationships are about trust aren’t they there are guys who don’t want everyone in there business march 30, 2011, 11:08 pm carol how about if you’ve been living together for a couple of years. we split up last spring and he changed his status from in a relationship to single, interested in women. when asked he said he did it on purpose because he knew i’d see it. we were apart for 5 weeks. his status hasn’t changed and he said i make a big deal out of nothing, because no one pays attention to status or at least he doesn’t. i receently changed mine to single and the response i’ve received is obvious, people do pay attention. is he just not committed to me or am i making a big deal out of nothing. february 25, 2011, 2:09 pm kay jessica! leave him – that is unhealthy and a half! i know you don’t want to hear that, i’ve been in the same boat but listen, leave him. there’s plenty of fish in the sea that will certainly treat you better. if he’s pushing for you to dump him so he can basically cheat on you and then come back. that’s just disgusting and he sounds like a terrible person. push him away now before you get sucked in love any deeper. february 10, 2011, 2:23 pm jessica i have been with this guy for a year and 4 months and his facebook status shows he is single. he don’t like to kiss me and never cuddles me. he hardly texts me or calls. i have to do it first. he told me he don’t want to give his self to me and then get hurt. i love him and he told me he loves me too. he also told me that he knows i love him but i don’t know he loves me. he has went out with other women because he pushes me to dumping him and thinks if i dump him it’s ok to have sex with someone else but i can’t because he didn’t dump me. he makes me feel like he is ashamed of me and i don’t think he loves me. i just can’t understand why he keeps coming back and won’t let me go. please help me! february 10, 2011, 7:38 am olya hi jessica, dump him as you deserve much better man and treatment than this. he does not seem to care whether you get hurt by his stupid actions and games. so do not waste your precious time on him… january 31, 2012, 3:05 pm honey bee i’ve been with my bf for 4years now, he never wants to put he’s in a relationship on his site, he doesn’t take pictures as a couple cuz he says “he’s not photogenic” he says he doesn’t tell people he loves them but he acts like he’s in love with me and we do everything together……..what’s wrong with us…what’s wrong with me? why does he seem so ashamed of our love and the funny thing is its are 4th year starting and i’m sitting here with it stuck on my mind to afraid to do anything. february 7, 2011, 2:06 am kay i agree and disagree. i get the privacy thing but my boyfriend his main concern, after 5 years (we’re in our mid 20’s) is worrying if we break up again he doesn’t want to on facebook. i don’t see why after a mini break up that he changed it to single and then blank after we got back together (which i knew was going to happen…he has these weird episodes) when all this time before he had it down that we were in a relationship together. he tells me that all his friends know we’re together but he’s worried he’ll have to babysit me if we all go out somewhere together with friends (because apparently i need a lot of attention which def isnt true). i don’t give him a lot of physical attention but he doesnt give me very much attention if we’re out. there’s very few things i truly want in this sad life we live and i want his facebook to say that we are in a relationship together. i’m a bit of a romantic and i want him to brag about me. i want him to show off to the world that he has this beautiful girl because i just want to feel special… december 4, 2010, 11:19 pm kf i don’t agree with this. as a woman, i expect my bf to be happy that he’s in a realationship with me and to want everyone to know. if he’s dragging his heels on such a simple matter, there’s something wrong. as a matter of fact, i know this to be true. my first bf asked me out 10/22/10 and still had another chick’s name as his girlfriend on fb, i finally got him to take it down, but he wouldn’t add me. i finally accomplished that, and he took it (my name) down. got him to put it back up, he hid his relationship status. finally, i contacted the woman that had been listed as his girlfriend b/f me and found out she was still his gf, his only one she thought. ladies, demand that he adds you as his gf on everything, b/c how he reacts to it and what he does will tell you loads about him. that’s how i learned by bf was a liar and a cheater. i would have discovered it eventually due to other behaviors, but i nailed him in 2wks thanks to his fb relationship status. if he really cares about you and wants you, changing his fb status should be a hasseless thing. november 12, 2010, 4:29 pm felicia wow thanks for the update on it. i was having the same problem now im more relaxed and not worring about it. i hide my status and if my friends or family want to know they can ask me. this caused alot of dumb fights between me and my bf cause i was hurt when he didnt change it. but now i under stand were people are coming from so thank u for great advice. october 27, 2010, 3:50 pm smart payment plan people need to focus more on day to day living and less on a website. sometimes the female thinks people are in a relationship before the relationship has had time to solidify. let a good 3-6 months go by before making it official. october 19, 2010, 8:36 pm kika i have my relationship status hidden, we both have. recently i asked him if he doesnt mind if i change mine into ‘in a relationship’ (im starting my uni and a few guys started to flirt with me as there’s nothing stated on fb). he said he doesnt mind but he wont change it because it his privacy. i know that he is afraid that i will dump him at uni because of someone else (his exes did that) and i think he just doesnt want to change it back from ‘in a relationship’ to ‘single’ after potential break up. i love him, i dont want to change him, i dont want to be pushy, if he feels he is ready to make such a commitment to me on fb, he will do that. august 29, 2010, 8:09 pm rin wow, i really needed to read this. my boyfriend and i just made things official after a few weeks of dating/talking… but he hasn’t changed his status like i have. i casually asked him about it once, but he just said that facebook won’t let him change it. i don’t know whether he is lying because he is unsure or if he is telling me the truth… does facebook really keep you from changing things? anyways, after reading your article, i’m just going to try and relax and live in the moment. we’ll see how things pan out and i won’t freak out over a facebook status. thank you so much eric! july 2, 2010, 2:28 am laurette reading this made me feel so much better. my boyfriend and i broke up a few weeks ago, and things got good again, but he didn’t wanna make it facebook official. he just tells me to not get so anxious. hes been hurt a lot in his past so reading this and understanding that, i feel better :) april 8, 2010, 11:40 am alyssa i agree with teri. february 15, 2010, 7:46 am teri people use facebook as a dating site and this is a known fact….it has broken up relationships and marriages and both men and women use it to cheat….if a man or woman refuses to change his or her “status” for a significant other as you write, that person needs to be dropped immediately simply because they are too high a risk….it is a courtesy you extend to the person you claim to care for…if you care enough to get naked with them, you should care enough to change your freaking facebook status for them… november 9, 2009, 10:09 pm chinky i like this guy and i wana get outa the friend zone concept and date him. how do i steer the convos to be more flirty??? some statements or?s anyhing can help!! october 14, 2009, 9:56 pm donna eric, you’re succchhh a spunk!! lol <3 september 15, 2009, 7:03 am sterling why do you need to have your relationship status displayed on facebook? i have mine hidden. if you’re actually my friend, then you know if i’m in a relationship or not and with whom. i know, i know, it’s not real until it’s on facebook. *sigh* september 4, 2009, 4:25 pm eric charles i’m with you sterling… i don’t show mine. no time for that nonsense. ;) september 4, 2009, 10:08 pm rhonda i have been dating a guy about 3 months.. i changed my status to say in a relationship, but didn’t connect his name to that status. basically, i didn’t want to be bothered by other guys. he hasn’t changed his status from single. now i want to step back and slow things down to his speed. if i change my status back, think he will get upset or just accept it as i want to take it slow too? i feel silly asking about this guess i can do what i want.. july 16, 2009, 11:26 pm alicia d i wouldnt want ppl to know my status either. then when u break up it will show and stupid annoying ppl will ask u why omggggg did u break up awwwww lol june 12, 2009, 12:07 pm eric charles thank you. june 5, 2009, 11:58 am maria eric charles is amazing june 5, 2009, 4:51 am sam ok i love ask a guy… i have read every ask a guy article and all of the answers are really on point and great advice april 29, 2009, 9:48 am kristen amazing!!! and true… dating is complicated enough without bringing facebook into the mix april 29, 2009, 9:30 am germaine windley nice and does that go for myspace as well? 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