Spørg en fyr: Vil han datere mig eller ej?

klokke hjælp! min værelseskammerat og jeg har denne sindssyge attraktion og kemi og begyndte at koble op for 5 måneder siden. for nylig har jeg lyst til, at tingene bliver lidt mere intense. Jeg formoder nogle gensidige følelser, men ønsker ikke bare at spørge ham. vi gik på et par datoer i begyndelsen, så sagde han, at han faktisk ikke ville 'date', så jeg var forvirret, men havde det fint, da jeg lige selv kom ud af et forhold. så vi blev ved med at have det sjovt. for nylig har han været mere og mere kram, kysset min pande, holdt mig strammere osv. og introduceret mig til sine venner, hans medarbejdere, og de vidste alle om mig allerede. han indrømmede, at han fortalte dem alle om mig. så gå ud et par gange mere til middag, lære mig skyde osv., og vi har altid det sjovt, så nu er jeg forvirret, om han har mere alvorlige følelser, men samtidig har han ikke sagt noget. vi bor sammen, og han har ikke bragt nogen piger over og heller ikke jeg. hvad skal jeg gøre? Jeg vil ikke rocke båden, jeg har det godt med tingene, men på samme tid er jeg så forvirret! 7. januar 2020, 23:40 shipra der er denne dreng, som jeg havde gået i gymnasiet med. nu efter 6 år er han stadig i kontakt med mig. i løbet af disse 6 år har vi næppe talt som en eller to gange om året. men nu siden en uge har han kontaktet mig dagligt, og vi taler i cirka to timer. han er altid gratis til det punkt at være osteagtig. han antyder altid, at han ønsker et forhold, men har ikke spurgt åbent. nu er jeg meget målrettet person. før ham har jeg aldrig engang talt mere end få sætninger med nogen dreng. og jeg kan godt lide at tale med ham, men lige nu vil jeg fokusere på mine studier. det er også en langdistance type ting (vi er i forskellige tidszoner, som lige nu er det kl. 9.30 for ham). nu er jeg forvirret over, hvad jeg skal gøre. om jeg skal fortsætte, eller skal jeg tydeligt fortælle ham, at det er spild af tid. fordi jeg ikke er i stand til at afslutte min opgave til tiden. jeg ved ikke hvad jeg skal gøre? 13. august 2018, 09:32 jessica min crush er en sophmore i gymnasiet og jeg er en fryshmen. Jeg kan virkelig godt lide ham. Jeg tager normalt hatten og løber til klassen, men han finder mig altid. han vil bede om sin hat tilbage, og jeg vil sige nej, så han skal kæmpe den ud af mine hænder. jeg venter altid på ham i skolen, så jeg kan give ham et kram. den dag, jeg begyndte at kunne lide ham, var hjemme. Jeg græd, fordi min og min ex kærestes sang kom, og jeg løb bagud ved toiletterne. min ven kom tilbage og spurgte mig, hvorfor jeg græd. Jeg fortalte hende om sangen, og hun kom mig med. så kom min crush ind og spurgte, hvem han havde brug for at dræbe. min ven fortalte ham, hvorfor jeg græd, og han bad mig om at danse. Jeg sagde ja, og han fortalte mig, at jeg så smuk ud. han var alle måder sød og sød for mig, selv når jeg ville tage hans ting. indtil min fødselsdag hver ting når syd.l han er undertiden temperamentsfuld, men jeg ved, at han har et godt hjerte, men det er meget for ham at vise det. på min fødselsdag besluttede jeg at fortælle ham, hvordan jeg havde det. lige siden har han ikke svaret på mine beskeder eller opkald. Jeg vil virkelig vide, om han er sur på mig eller bare ikke vil hænge rundt mig andy mere. også min ven spurgte ham, hvordan han havde det, og han råbte bare på hende. hun fortalte mig, hvad han gjorde, og sagde derefter, at han virkede lidt ude, som om han ikke selv ville. kan du venligst hjælpe mig ??? Jeg er så forvirret 5. marts 2016, 16:24 aj Jeg har et spørgsmål om, om en fyr er interesseret i mig. så i går aftes gik jeg ud med mine venner til en husfest og jeg mødte denne fyr. han syntes interesseret i mig, fordi han talte med mig, rørte ved mig, var tæt og endda gav mig et kys, der førte til mere intens kysse. Jeg var også interesseret i ham. han kom derefter tilbage til min lejlighed med mig og mine venner, og vi kølede bare og talte. han sad ved mig, holdt i min hånd, og vi talte om os selv. han spurgte, om det var okay, hvis han blev, og jeg sagde ja, og han smilede. Jeg gik derefter hurtigt tilbage til mit værelse, og da jeg kom ud, var han og venner ved at rejse. Jeg prøvede at sige hans navn og spurgte ham, hvorfor han gik, og han ville ikke svare mig og fortsatte med at gå. så jeg lod ham være, fordi jeg ikke vidste, hvad jeg skulle gøre. Jeg troede, vi begyndte at slå det sammen med hinanden, og så rejser han uden at sige farvel. jeg gør ikke hvad jeg skal gøre. sender jeg en sms til ham og spørger om i går aftes? eller hvad? Jeg kan virkelig godt lide ham og vil gerne se, om der er noget mellem os. han gjorde så mange tegn, der pegede på, at han var interesseret i mig og kunne lide mig, men jeg ved det ikke. Vær venlig at hjælpe mig! 1. november 2015, 12:42 vivian Jeg mødte denne fyr gennem en ven, den første nat sammen skete der intet, vi udvekslede kontakter og jeg rejste, da jeg kom tilbage , jeg prøvede at ringe, men til ingen nytte blev nummeret ikke tilsluttet, så efter et stykke tid kontaktede han mig, og vi tilsluttede os og elskede også. efter den første kærlighed til at lave sammen, ikke meget opkald eller tekst som i han er nogensinde travlt, så lad ham være, han prøver altid at kontakte mig, når han vil se mig, og det gjorde mig glad. men pludselig ændrede ting sig, når hans holdning til mig, når jeg klager, undskylder han og siger, at han prøver at få sit arbejde belastet hans hoved og for at få tingene til at fungere imellem os. efter nogle dage ændrede historien sig igen, han begyndte at kalde mig en fidus, og at han ikke vil tale med mig igen, og i denne periode var jeg allerede gravid, fortalte jeg ham om det, men han kaldte det en fidus baby, og at han ikke ønsker yderligere kommunikation med mig. jeg lader ham være, så mødes vi hos hans venner y han var der med en pige, og da han så mig, kom han og gav mig et knus og hilste på mig, som om der ikke sker noget, selvfølgelig var jeg vred, og jeg prøver ikke at være ligeglad eller lade min vrede komme over mig. jeg bliver alene med min telefon i et afslutningssted, han kom igen og spurgte, hvordan jeg var, svarede ham og sagde, at jeg havde det godt, og jeg forlod lokalet, da min jalousi begyndte at vise sig. og siden da er det ham og hende sammen og ikke mere chat eller opkald fra ham. hvad laver jeg, for jeg kan virkelig godt lide ham, og er han stadig i mig? eller bare forsøge at få mig mere jaloux til at vide, hvordan jeg virkelig synes om ham? vær venlig at hjælpe 10. marts 2015, 23:46 jenna grace Jeg ved ikke hvad jeg skal gøre, og det lyder måske lidt vanvittigt, men det hele er bare ødelagt. så husk, jeg er stadig i mellemskolen, mens du læser dette. så jeg mødte denne fyr, da jeg skulle ind i sjette klasse (han skulle ind til syvende), og jeg boede på hans søhus, fordi vores familier vores venner. godt vores forældre havde folk over, og så vi sad fast ovenpå sammen i cirka fire timer, og så begyndte vi begge at kunne lide hinanden, og det fortsatte hele ugen, men så gik jeg, og det slags døde. så i det forløbne år eller derom har vi sendt sms'er til og fra, og så begynder jeg at tænke, måske kan han ikke lide mig selv som en ven, men så hænger vi ud og kan lide, at det går tilbage til det punkt, hvor jeg tror, ​​han måske som mig, fordi vi vil flirte frem og tilbage. tidligere på året havde vi sendt sms'er og snakket i tre dage lige efter at komme tæt på igen, og så spurgte han mig, og det kom som et chok for mig, og jeg er stadig bange for at komme sammen med ham, fordi han er karakteren over mig, men som min venner siger, at det ikke betyder noget. alligevel, selv da han spurgte mig, kunne jeg godt lide ham, men jeg svarede ikke i fem minutter, efter at han fortalte mig, at han var seriøs, så han sagde nej, jeg bare tulrede med dig, jeg ville se, hvad du ville sige, og som jeg ikke ved ikke rigtig, hvad han mente med det. og så nu er vi tilbage på det punkt, hvor vi kun taler, når vi hænger ud, og alle mine venner siger, at jeg skal fortælle ham, hvordan jeg har det, men på dette tidspunkt ved jeg ikke, hvad jeg skal gøre, for selvom han vidste, at jeg kunne lide ham og han kunne lide mig, at jeg ikke ville være sammen med ham, fordi vi er så nære familievenner, at det ville være akavet, hvis vi brød op. Hjælp, tak! 11. februar 2015, 23:41 peyton carlson okay så min eks. vi er venner og alle, men han forstår ikke, hvor svært det er at bare være venner med ham. vi datede i cirka 1,3 år, og jeg elsker ham. Jeg ser ham næsten hver dag og netop den anden dag gik han op og gav mig et kæmpe kram. han hævder, at det var et venskram, men det virkede ikke som det. Jeg talte med ham om det senere, og han indrømmede åbent, at han kunne lide at kramme mig. han sagde, at han ikke var helt over mig. hvad gør jeg for at få ham tilbage? hjælp venligst! 7. februar 2015, 12:59 pm siobhan så min situation er ... denne fyr, jeg har kendt siden jeg var 17. vi mødtes online, efter at jeg delte min første kæreste . vi var på en bytteopkalds ting. fælles aftale. alt var fint. dette var arrangementet i to år, men vi udviklede selvfølgelig over tid samtale, nogle gange meget dybe, og vi er nu venner. vi talte regelmæssigt, nogle gange endda mødtes bare for at chatte. Jeg vidste, at jeg begyndte at kunne lide ham. mit datingsliv gik ingen steder, heller ikke hans, og jeg tog mod til at spørge ham ud. han afviste venligt på grund af min alder (der er 7 års forskel), så jeg var ok, og vi fortsatte bare som normalt. omkring 2 og et halvt år i vores arrangement havde jeg en anden kæreste. arrangementet sluttede, men vi talte stadig sammen. 3 år senere har jeg en baby, men ingen fyr. alligevel mødtes han og jeg igen efter bruddet. han kom til min lejlighed omkring 10, vi talte, havde det sjovt, og jeg måtte massere ham. for at være retfærdig var det det mest intime, vi nogensinde havde været med hinanden. han gik klokken 4 og lige da han gik, gav han mig en temmelig lidenskabelig snog. som han aldrig nogensinde har gjort før. reglerne for arrangementet var ikke noget kys, som han lavede. han brød sin regering. hvad skal jeg tænke? 19. januar 2015, 20:43 siobhan åh, jeg er 22 nu 19. januar 2015, 20:46 meera her er denne fyr, der var en klassekammerat i et år, men vi talte aldrig i løbet af den tid..efter vi var færdige med skolen og kom på college, blev vi venner gennem et socialt sted, og vi har været gode venner i 5 år nu. i hans klasse er en af ​​mine venner, der var min meget nære ven i skoledagen, og da vi mennesker kendte hinanden, blev vi gode venner, og vi gals plejede at drille hinanden med ham. Jeg endte med at udvikle følelser for denne fyr, og efterhånden som vi gik, stoppede folk med at tale im-konferencer og hænge ud sammen, men vi var konstant i kontakt med hinanden. denne fyr og jeg fra starten var genert omkring hinanden..vi talte aldrig meget, selv mens vi smsede hinanden. men han var en meget god ven, og mine følelser for ham blev dybere. Jeg begyndte at høre rygter om, at de begge var i et forhold, men jeg stolede på dem, at de ville fortælle mig, hvis noget lignende skete. da de aldrig fortalte mig noget lignende, gik jeg videre og tilstod mine følelser for ham for nogle måneder tilbage..han sagde, at han ikke var klar til et forhold nu, da han skulle studere ordentligt, og jeg tog aldrig op emnet igen, og vi var venner men dog ikke så tæt som før. men for nylig begyndte denne fyr at blive tæt på mig igen og flirtede stort. han planlagde et par frokoster (ikke en dato) og en gang en film (igen ikke en dato), men han aflyste. Jeg viste ham aldrig, at jeg var skuffet over den måde, han har handlet på. flirten fortsatte, og for et par dage tilbage bad han mig ud på en date. Jeg var super begejstret, da vores forhold endelig begyndte at tage et kursus, men hans tidligere aflysninger gjorde mig bange. da jeg troede, han annullerede datoen den foregående dag, og denne gang handlede jeg ikke som om jeg ikke var skuffet, men samtidig ikke viste, hvor meget han har såret mig. han forsøgte at føre en afslappet samtale, men jeg kunne ikke. Jeg elsker ham så meget, og jeg ved ikke, hvad jeg skal gøre nu ..! og jeg forstår ikke, hvorfor han flirter med mig, spørger mig ud på en date og derefter annullerer, når han ved, hvordan jeg har det med ham !! vær venlig at hjælpe mig !! 7. december 2014, 3:19 am maria så jeg mødte denne fyr for et år siden, tilsyneladende mødtes vi ved et par lejligheder med venner, og vi blev introduceret et par gange, men jeg kan ikke huske det. Jeg lærte ham bedre at kende i august. vi hænger ud som venner, vi kommer virkelig videre ... og pludselig indså vi, at vi faktisk kan lide hinanden, og at dette var slags datoer. en nat kyssede han mig, men vi har begge problemer med offentlig hengivenhed, men stadig kysser jeg ham tilbage. og vi fortsatte med at tale via facebook og txt-beskeder. så begyndte vi at se hinanden, da han pludselig blev fjern. Jeg henvendte mig til ham om dette, og han forklarede, at det var fordi han følte, at han var i et forhold; med tanke på, at hans tidligere forhold på fire år sluttede i april sidste år. han sagde, at han passede og kunne lide mig ... så jeg sagde til ham, det er fint, vi kan tage det langsomt. det fortsatte som normalt. men så fjernede han sig igen, og når vi går ud med vores vennegruppe (som vi er i samme gruppe), når han drikker lidt, er han over mig og kan ikke hjælpe sig selv. denne situation forvirrede mig, så jeg henvendte mig til ham igen, og vi besluttede, at vi ville stoppe med at se hinanden alle sammen, men at vi stadig er venner. han sagde, at han bare ville være alene, og han var trist, fordi han kan lide mig og vil være sammen med mig, men ikke nu. den nat blev han der, intet skete, men han holdt og kyssede min pande hele natten. et par uger senere skete der noget med mig, der gjorde mig bange for at blive hos mig, han hørte om det fra venner, kom for at besøge mig og førte mig tilbage til sit hus, så jeg er ikke alene. igen skete der intet, men vi sked hele natten. derefter blev han endnu mere fjern, ikke engang som en ven, ingen kommunikation overhovedet. Jeg så ham kun ude med vores venner. Jeg har virkelig en følelse fra ham, jeg har naturligvis ikke fortalt ham det, da jeg ikke kan lide at tale om sådan noget. men jeg har ikke følt det sådan før. da vi så hinanden, følte jeg mig fri, og når han krammer mig, føler jeg mig sikker. Jeg kan se, at han kan lide mig, for når vi er ude og andre mennesker flirter med mig, stirrer han på afstand og nogle gange kommer han hen for at bryde interaktionen. siden da har jeg været på et par datoer med denne anden fyr, og selvom jeg virkelig kan lide ham og gerne vil fortsætte noget med ham. det føles ikke som det føles, når jeg er sammen med den første fyr. og på grund af vores fælles venner, hvis jeg begynder at gå ud med den nye fyr, hvis den første fyr ser os, vil det være slutningen? et eller andet sted i mig har jeg stadig håb for os. vær venlig at hjælpe x 10. november 2014, 8:33 am amabell hej, jeg hørte denne fyr var i mig, og han er yngre end mig. jeg fylder bare 22 og han fylder bare 18 år. alle på arbejdspladsen synes, jeg er varm og uskyldig, så de vil alle sammen med mig eller sove med mig, men vil ikke tale med mig. 18-åringen er virkelig stille omkring andre, det samme som mig. han prøver at tale lidt med mig fra tid til anden. eksempel ”hej hvordan har du det i dag?” osv. så prøver han faktisk at spørge mig en gang, og han havde problemer, så jeg hjælper ham og spørger mig selv og siger 'Jeg skal i biografen i weekenden, du vil komme?' Jeg spørger, hvad tid, og han sagde 'Jeg ved ikke, det er din dag.' til sidst gik vi ud og så en film, han vi sagde, jeg ser pæn og anderledes ud. han ville se en skræmmende film, men jeg fortalte ham, at jeg ville se, hvad vi denne anden. han ville ikke betale for billetterne, men det gjorde han, og han sagde, du får popcorn. i slutningen, da vi var ude, sagde han, at han allerede havde set det, men at så længe jeg nyder det, var det fint. efter filmene går vi rundt udenfor og gik derefter for at hente kaffe, og han stillede mig spørgsmål, kl. 12 fik han en besked fra sine venner om, at de vil hænge ud, og for at han kan gå hjem, holdt han txt med dem og så til sidst blev irriteret over dem, men vi forlod 30 minutter efter for at tage bussen. han siger derefter, at jeg klæder mig meget, men at han kan lide det, ikke at han føler sig for afklædt og almindelig. vi mødes på arbejde, så vi begynder at hænge ud, når vi kan, i vores bremser. han var altid genert, han rører ved mig, min skulder, jeg rører ved ham, og han trækker sig tilbage. hans venner komplimenterer ham og le nogle gange når vi er sammen, jeg hørte dem også sige til ham, der ved, at de respekterer ham på grund af mig. anden gang vi hænger i indkøbscentret, fortæller han mig, at han er nødt til at rejse på et bestemt tidspunkt, fordi han skal til en koncert. vi hænger stadig ud, og i slutningen prøver han at være lidt tættere på mig, og han sidder foran mig, så forlader han, fordi han skal forlade. så blev jeg irriteret, og han bemærkede det, og han sagde ”åh nej jeg har det dårligt.” vi taler stadig på arbejde og alt andet end ved, at han begyndte at vise mig, han fik mig til at gå foran sine venner, så hej kan se mig, han hader bremserummet, men i stedet for at gå der, da de var mange kolleger der . tiden går, og vi txt stadig. men se jeg txt ham, og han reagerer 2 dage senere undertiden 4 dage. undertiden reagerer han aldrig. Jeg skal altid txt først. så troede jeg, at han bare prøvede at vise mig, så jeg blev irriteret på ham og havde ikke lyst til at tale med ham, så han spurgte, hvorfor jeg var sur, og jeg kunne ikke sige åh, jeg tror du bruger mig. så jeg sagde bare til ham, at jeg er stresset. så så prøver han stadig at være sammen på arbejde. til sidst kom jeg over det, fordi han viste, at han var interesseret i, da han var bekymret for, at han gjorde noget forkert. Jeg går med ham i indkøbscentret igen, og jeg fortæller ham i sidste ende, hvad der foregår mellem os, han var overraskende, spørg mig om det samme spørgsmål og svar derefter 'Åh, vi bare har det sjovt.' Jeg spiller det sejt på arbejde, men holdt afstand. så går tiden. han fortæller mig, at han er opereret i dag. Jeg siger ham okay lad os hænge ud inden da, men vores tidsplaner stemmer ikke overens. Jeg txt ham 3 dage før, hvis han arbejdede før hans operation, og han reagerede aldrig, så jeg bad ham held og lykke og passe. han arbejder en dag før, og han txt mig åh jeg arbejder i dag, men går tidligt. Jeg har travlt med ledere, og han kommer til at sige farvel, men stikker mig kun. så txt jeg ham 'ikke farvel knus' svarer han, du ser travlt ud, men jeg vil prøve at se dig i morgen formiddag. ' Jeg spørger, om han arbejder på sin operationsdag, men jeg får ikke en. den næste dag på arbejde fortæller han mig, at hans operation blev flyttet til næste uge. Jeg vidste, at det var en løgn, da jeg fik at vide, at han skulle til en koncert med en kollega på fredag ​​(det var tirsdag). han var deprimeret og prøv at kompensere for det og bede mig gå ud. Jeg fortalte ham okay næste dag, jeg er væk, og du er væk, lad os hænge ud. den følgende dag skifter jeg og går til placeringen. så txt jeg ham, at jeg måske er for sent, og han svarer, at han vil. Jeg fortalte ham, da vi begge tager bussen, lad os mødes på denne station, svarer han. Åh min mor satte mig til at udføre opgaver, da jeg vågnede, vil jeg være forsinket. Jeg fortalte ham ikke noget problem, skriv mig når du kan. derefter 20 min. txt jeg ham og siger, at jeg er træt af at vente, så jeg går hjem. han txt, jeg ved, at du bliver sur, men jeg tror ikke, at jeg ville være i stand til at klare det, selvom jeg ved, hvad jeg ikke kan. Jeg siger, at hvis der opstod noget uventet, at han skulle have flyttet tiden, men ikke få mig til at gå der for ingenting. han sagde, at han var ked af det. senere prøver jeg at spille cool og spørger ham, om han arbejdede næste dag, og det gjorde han ikke. så 3 dage senere siger han om at jeg arbejder lørdag, min sidste dag før operationen, jeg er lidt sur, men jeg taler med ham, så jeg fortæller ham åh held og lykke med operationen og jeg siger ham åh går i biografen efter arbejde for at fejre min forfremmelse. så svarer han med åh ja, jeg ved ikke, hvad jeg vil gøre i 3 timer, da jeg kommer ud senere så ham. så forsøger han at undgå mine øjne, når jeg taler og bevæger sig meget fra side til side. så krammer han mig stramt og siger derefter ”okay det er nok” mens han rører ved mit hår. så forlader han. den aften skrev jeg ham, åh, filmene var fantastiske. og vi foretager smalltalk, så fortæller mig, at han er nødt til at gå og sender en SMS til mig senere. Jeg fortalte ham held og lykke, så næste dag på hans operation dag jeg tekst ham held og lykke, den næste dag jeg tekst ham hvordan var det, så 3 dage senere hvordan du har været? den næste uge lavede jeg små en-sides smalltale om, hvad jeg har lavet. Jeg forventede ikke, at han skulle svare med det samme, men han sagde, at han ville være ude i 2 uger, det har været i. Jeg holder op med at sende en sms til ham efter 2 uger. Jeg hørte, at han var dårlig de første 2, og så havde han det fint og brugte sin tid på at spille videospil. i løbet af denne tid før operationen opfører han sig som om han vil have noget og trækker sig derefter tilbage. selv hans venner siger, at han kan lide mig. så han opfører sig som om han vil have noget med mig, men når jeg reagerer på hans signaler, trækker han sig tilbage. Jeg får ikke hans signaler. 3. november 2014, 11:50 amabell hej, jeg hørte denne fyr var i mig, og han er yngre end mig. jeg fylder bare 22 og han fylder bare 18 år. alle på arbejdspladsen tror, ​​jeg er varm og uskyldig, så de vil alle sammen med mig eller sove med mig, men vil ikke tale med mig. 18-åringen er virkelig stille omkring andre, det samme som mig. han prøver at tale med mig fra tid til anden. eksempel ”hej hvordan har du det i dag?” osv. så prøver han faktisk at spørge mig ud en gang, og han havde problemer, så jeg hjælper ham ud og spørger mig selv og siger 'Jeg skal i biografen denne weekend, du vil komme?' Jeg spørger, hvad tid, og han sagde 'Jeg ved ikke, det er din dag.' til sidst gik vi ud og så en film, han vi sagde, jeg ser pæn og anderledes ud. han ville se en skræmmende film, men jeg fortalte ham, at jeg ville se, hvad vi denne anden. han ville ikke betale for billetterne, men det gjorde han, og han sagde, du får popcorn. i slutningen, da vi var ude, sagde han, at han allerede havde set det, men at så længe jeg nyder det, var det fint. efter filmene går vi rundt udenfor og gik derefter for at hente kaffe, og han stillede mig spørgsmål, kl. 12 fik han en besked fra sine venner om, at de vil hænge ud, og for at han kan gå hjem, holdt han txt med dem og så til sidst blev irriteret over dem, men vi forlod 30 minutter efter for at tage bussen. han siger derefter, at jeg klæder mig meget, men at han kan lide det, ikke at han føler sig for afklædt og almindelig. vi mødes på arbejde, så vi begynder at hænge ud, når vi kan, i vores bremser. han var altid genert, han rører ved mig, min skulder, jeg rører ved ham, og han trækker sig tilbage. hans venner komplimenterer ham og le nogle gange når vi er sammen, jeg hørte dem også sige til ham, der ved, at de respekterer ham på grund af mig. anden gang vi hænger i indkøbscentret, fortæller han mig, at han er nødt til at rejse sertin 3. november 2014, 11:02 am penny der er denne fyr, som jeg har, for længst, en crush på. vi var tæt på gymnasiet, han var min klassekammerat og en meget god ven. efter vi gik i gymnasiet, tog jeg alt det mod, jeg har, og fortalte ham, at jeg kunne lide ham. at være den gode fyr, han var, udnyttede han aldrig mig, han sagde det bare, han ser mig som en ven, og han ville være sådan. da vi gik på college, stoppede kommunikationen mellem os. men et år før jeg gik på college, begyndte vi at sende beskeder på fb og sms'e hinanden igen (der gik 4 år uden kommunikation) og talte om alle mulige ting, vi løb aldrig tør for ting at tale om. efter det fik han og jeg travlt med min afhandling og andre akademiske ting. vi går til forskellige fjerne universiteter her er fangsten, vi besluttede at se hinanden efter eksamen. han skriver sjældent, og hvis han gør det, smutter samtalen op igen, fra normale ting at tale om mellem venner til dampende henvendelser og forslag. så alt er klar, så en dag gik han for at se mig i min lejlighed (det var planlagt, spurgte han mig for ca. en måned siden). vi chattede i hvad der virkede som 3 timer. det var så dejligt at være sammen med en lang ven fra gymnasiet. og så begyndte vi at kysse og narre, men der skete ikke noget 'lækkert' af frygt for at mine værelseskammerater kunne fange os. vi blev enige om at gå ud næste dag og gøre gerningen et andet sted. han var altid så snakkesalig og åben over for mig, vi ville diskutere og diskutere om ting. men så, første gang vi ramte sengen, var han en helt anden person. så det er historien. mit problem ligger i dette, han sagde, at han ikke var klar til et forhold og bare ville starte noget afslappet og let med mig, og jeg var enig, tænkte at jeg måske havde det godt, nu føler jeg mig tabt, han er ikke den type, tekster hele dagen. og efter den ene gang, vi havde sex, smsede han mig aldrig, der gik 2 dage siden den dag. og jeg er bekymret. skal jeg stadig vente på ham? 4. juli 2014, 11:02 lynn Jeg mødte en mand online for fire måneder siden, og vi har ikke mødt hinanden. han ringer til mig hver dag og siger, at han vil have mit hjerte og sjæl, og at han er blevet forelsket i mig. hver gang vi laver arrangementer for at mødes, kommer der noget op. børn, rejser osv. er jeg en fjols at være tålmodig? Hjælp. 19. maj 2014, 21:05 fatima for ca. 2 måneder siden mødte jeg en fyr på en datingside. vi begyndte at sms'e, og tingene syntes at gå ok. Jeg må indrømme, at samtalen ikke var så interessant, men jeg følte, at vi bare lærte hinanden at kende. Jeg spurgte ham, hvor det gik med dette, og han sagde, at han ikke følte det. så jeg fortalte ham, at jeg bare vil gå videre, for hvis han ikke 'føler det' nu, hvordan kan han så senere? måske tog jeg fejl, men han fortalte mig, at jeg overreagerede. ikke desto mindre slettede jeg hans nummer og gik videre. i sidste uge fik jeg en tekst fra et underligt nummer, der sagde, at han ville prøve ting igen og følte, at vi var i en dårlig start. det var den fyr igen. tænkte jeg, ok ... jeg giver det endnu et skud. vi smsede non-stop fra sol til sol ned. det føltes rigtig godt. vores samtaler blev sjovere og meget flirtende. han arbejder som emt, så hans tidsplan var hård, og jeg arbejder i lufthavnen, så min tidsplan var også skør. det var en søndag aften, og jeg mødtes med ham, mens han var hos en tante. vi sad i hans bil, og jeg var så nervøs. han blev ved med at spørge mig, hvorfor jeg talte en kilometer i minuttet, og hvorfor jeg var så bange. Jeg fortalte ham, at jeg aldrig har været sammen med nogen, og jeg var nervøs. sagde han, 'men du synes så tillidsfuld i dine tekster.' han blev ved med at bede mig slappe af. sagde han: ”dit ansigtsudtryk skriger bare - dette røvhul er ved at sige noget dårligt om mig.” han fortalte mig, at jeg var sød og havde brug for at slappe af. vi bare stirrede på hinanden. vi smilede ... og så gjorde han det. han kyssede mig. og det føltes rigtig godt (det var også mit første kys). så efter at han trak sig væk, sagde han, at du stadig ser bange ud. Jeg fortalte ham, at jeg nød det. jeg holdt fast ved ham resten af ​​tiden og fortalte ham, at jeg var mere komfortabel. han måtte gå, så han sendte mig af. den aften sms'ede han mig om, at jeg var en underlig. han spøgte, men den næste dag var alt, hvad han gjorde, at give mig svar på et ord. så ikke klar over .. jeg begyndte at sprænge ud over ham og sagde, at han var fjern. han sagde, at han havde svært ved at kunne lide mig, fordi jeg var ”bange”, og jeg fortalte ham, at han skulle have gjort mig mere komfortabel. han smsede mig for at lade ham være alene. jeg gjorde. næste morgen smsede jeg ham om, at jeg var ked af at være nervøs, og at jeg ville starte frisk. han sagde, jeg vil bare have dig til at ændre dine handlinger. især fordi jeg var mere sikker på mine sms'er end personligt. Jeg spurgte ham, om det var muligt for mig at se ham igen, og han sagde - ja. det var det. sagde han det i går. klokken er nu 18 i dag, og jeg har endnu ikke hørt noget fra ham eller noget. hvad skal jeg gøre? hvad skete der? er han uinteresseret? vil han sms'e mig? 15. maj 2013, 21:03 katy urgh, denne fyr lyder forfærdelig. aldrig tale til ham igen. 24. juni 2014, 08:55 delilah Jeg har et spørgsmål, denne lyd ligner mit problem, men det er ikke det samme. Jeg har talt med denne fyr i et par måneder nu. vi startede som bare venner, der gjorde forretninger, jeg lavede de grafiske designs for hans forretning. Jeg begyndte at kunne lide ham lidt mere end bare at være venner eller forretning, og jeg kan fortælle, at han måske føler det samme fra sit kropssprog. Jeg inviterede ham til at komme med til et velgørenhedsarrangement, men han sagde, at han ikke ville være i stand til at klare det. han sms'ede mig, da aftenen spurgte mig, hvordan det gik, som om han virkelig brydde sig. et par uger senere fortalte han mig, at grunden til, at han ikke kunne gå, var, at han så nogen, men at forholdet nu var forbi. dette var i december 2012, vi fortsatte med at tale, vi har gjort endnu mere forretning, og han tekster mig hele tiden om personlige ting, ikke forretning. da valentinsdag 2013 kom, håbede jeg, at han ville spørge mig, men det gjorde han aldrig. den dag han sms'ede mig for at fortælle mig hvor meget af en forfærdelig tid han havde, og at han ville hænge ud med mig den næste dag. Jeg er ikke en fjols, så jeg tog selvfølgelig ikke ham op på hans invitation. vi sender stadig sms hver dag, han har spurgt mig siden da, men jeg kunne virkelig ikke lave datoen. Jeg er ikke sikker på, om jeg skal holde på med at håbe, at denne fyr virkelig kan lide mig, da vi sender en sms, eller hvis jeg bare skal give op og komme videre, vil jeg meget gerne høre dit råd tak. 26. marts 2013, 8:32 am gina Jeg har denne kollega, som jeg har været venner med siden vi begyndte at arbejde sammen. det var først for nylig, at vores forhold begyndte at ændre sig. det var subtilt at flirte først i pauser og derefter fuld erkendelse af, hvad vi lavede. det fortsatte sådan et stykke tid, kun mens du var på arbejde, da 'vi aldrig udvekslede telefonnummer. en dag efter arbejde gik jeg og nogle kolleger ud og spiste. på parkeringspladsen ender jeg med at løbe ind i nævnte ven. Jeg var i stand til at overbevise om at komme med. han var sej med det, så længe han kunne være min tur. på vej til at spise, under bilturen, spurgte han, om vi ikke kunne hænge sammen alene. jeg er enig. senere på aftenen blev vi lidt tilsluttet, bare udstedt. efter afdelinger kridtede vi det op til varmen, hvis øjeblikket og handlede som om intet skete. et par dage senere på arbejde havde jeg brug for en tur hjem, og han tilbød. vi klarede igen, denne gang gik længere. her er dog sagen, ja jeg er voksen (en ung, men alligevel en voksen), men jeg har aldrig haft sex før. ikke fordi jeg tror på at “redde mig selv”, men fordi jeg aldrig har været tiltrukket nok af nogen til at have sex. han vidste, at jeg var jomfru. han stoppede det, vi lavede, og sagde, at han hellere ville have, at jeg ”ventede på, at en fantastisk fyr, der kan lide mig sådan, bliver min første.” vi sluttede den aften på et akaward kram og et løfte om stadig at være venner. af grundene til, at han sagde, at han ville stoppe, er det ikke som om jeg kunne være sur på ham. fra da af talte vi akawardly på arbejde, opfører sig som intet skete mellem os. vi endte med at se hinanden på en fest. han var allerede lidt spids, det øjeblik jeg kom derinde. han var tilbage til sit flirtende, rørefulde feely self. naturligvis vidste jeg, at det var alkoholen. vi blev begge fulde sammen og talte om 'natten', han sagde grundlæggende, at han ikke ville udnytte mig den aften, at han ligeglad med mig. Jeg fortæller ham dybest set, skal du ikke bekymre dig om det, det er okay. et eller andet tidspunkt i løbet af natten begynder vi at kysse foran vores fælles venner, der ikke vidste noget om situationen. han kigger op, se en rigtig god fyr af mig (homoseksuel) og siger 'ja, vi er lidt skabt.' ven: 'jeg ved.' ham: 'ved du det?' mig: 'han ved.' ham: 'han ved?' mig: “ja, han ved det.” we kiss again, he then in his drunken stupor, starts telling my friend: “i really find her attractive.” looks at me. “i really find you attractive” by this point i start to feel sick so i sit down. i hear him talking to my friend about the situation. he basically said he was trying to respect women more, and he wanted to respect me. in one if my least proudest monents, i publicly got suck. this point is aploy blur, but i remember him blaming himself, apologizing, because he had me drink so much… anyway, i haven’t gotten the chance to see him yet. i don’t even know why i’m writing this, or what question i really want answered. i feel like all it is for him is lust, and he really is a good enough guy, not to want to hurt me. on the other hand, i have my few friends who know the whole situation, saying that he really does like me, but the whole virgin thing scares me. truth be told, i would be okay with just a fling. i have this chemistry with him i haven’t had with anyone i’ve ever dated, and it’s something i’d like to explore. just because he would be my “first” that doesn’t mean i’m going to fall in love with him. i would rather explore my sexuality without too many emotional attachments, so when i do find mr. right, i’ll know what i want. i would be lying if i said i didn’t like him a little bit, but i also know a relationship wouldn’t go anywhere. that’s what i’m telling myself at least. anyway, i guess i’m writing this because i want someones opinion on whats going on in his head. am i more then likely rightto in thinking, this is just lust for him, but he’s trying to be a good guy and not take advantage? or are my friends right, that he does like me, but he’s intimidated? or is it just lust, and he’s intimidated? i just want someones objective standpoint, to help me wrap my whole, naive head around the situation please. november 20, 2012, 4:13 am katy sounds like its a very confusing situation and he obviously likes you and is attracted to you etc. once again it’s setting yourself back from how he feels and focussing on how you feel. sex is a funny old thing, i’m nearly 30 and even i get caught in the net of the ‘sex haze’ as carrie bradshaw aptly put it. it’s not that i don’t think women can’t have one night stands and not get invested but in my experience if there is a little bit of history, if you like the guy and you already kinda know its not going to end in marriage, sleeping with him is going to end in eventual heartache. after many years of experience and thinking i knew better i recently got involved with a guy who was a friend and was moving away. i was relatively objective and open minded about the whole situation, dare i say positively chilled out. that was until i slept with him. suddenly against all my better judgement i started reading into everything, fantasising about us living happily ever after. we didn’t of course and we were never meant to, but i ended up getting a bit hurt in the process, kicking myself for knowing better. that said, life is a series of experiences. sometimes we get hurt, sometimes we have multiple orgasms. those feel nice. in the end, go with what feels right at the time but set your expectations accordingly. you might get hurt, but hey we all do. so have fun, be safe and if it all goes wrong there is always sex and the city and a giant tub of ice cream. such a cliche! december 3, 2012, 7:08 pm whatever so, i have this close guyfriend who on occasion, when we drink too much together, we hook up. sometimes its intimate, sometimes, its just us fooling around. typical foolish story. as friends, we are very close. supportive of one another when the other needs it, available when the other needs it. he says he doesn’t have this relationship with anyone else. the story typically goes, we won’t fool around for a bit, then we hang out a little too much and then one thing leads to another and…we wake up in bed together the next day. there is one major fact i have left out, he is close friends with my long-term ex-boyfriend. every time we both say we aren’t going to fool around again, he cites how guilty he feels. i used to feel quite guilty in fact, but i stopped speaking to my ex, and realized that if i really truly felt guilty, i wouldn’t keep putting myself in the same situation. until very recently, he hadn’t even ever admitted that it had ever happened to another person; he actually told his therapist. he had told people that he had slept with a friend’s ex, but never said our names together. in fact, on one occasion; he could not perform, sexually due to the guilt. so while, i do see when he is coming from with the guilt factor, and this secret that has been gnawing at him, i also feel like, he is sort of lying either to himself or me; mostly likely a bit of both with the whole guilt situation. then this friend moved away. he had been talking about wanting a change for months and then took the plunge. we all recently out of college and this transient lifestyle doesn’t seem too outlandish. before he left; we hook up, say good bye. a few months ago, after visiting him i told him that i felt more and i couldn’t pretend i didn’t anymore, and he said that there could be nothing between us like that and that he really needed me to be just his friend. he played the guilt card again, he also wasn’t planning to return home. so after having a little disappointed cry, i said ok, and proceeded to go out and start dating a new guy. i am not going to lie, while my feelings for this new guy are true and growing, i do from time to time think about this friend, in a romantic/sexual way. things with the new guy aren’t perfect, but he is sweet and generous and a great guy. then the weekend the old friend returns, i follow the same pattern and bamb, we fool around. only this time, its not ok, on my end. i messed up, big time. the next day the friend and i talk things through and i said this cannot happen, otherwise, i will be unable to remain friends with him. period. but we get to talking about how we keep putting ourselves in the same situation, acting surprised when we then follow the same pattern. he says we just have a great time together. so my question is this, why doesn’t he like me enough to find out more? to explore what could be? august 22, 2012, 1:51 pm z i had alot bad exp in the past finally i made the choice to go back to date i sign in online dating which i found a guy we started chatting after few emails we exchange number and we starting testing and talking over the phone it was really nice since it seen be both knew what we wanted i was really looking forward to get to know him more and he told me he wanted the same thing he also express him self by telling me he like the way i was that he had not connected with anybody for a long time therefore i was really happy the only thing was missing is meet since he is 4 to 5 hrs away. we both have seen each other pics he seen really into me everything was fine until few weeks ago he stop calling and testing so i give him some time so i text him just to see how is doing which he did he explain he was busy at work so i give him another week i was getting a little confused and scare that this was going to end up where he just lost interest so last week i send him a message asking if he still was into me to please let me know since i dont wanted to waste time with the wrong person, he did replay saying he would like to meet and he understood the way i was feeling but some reason that was not enough for me so i ask him if he would stop been distance and cold. few hours later after he told me about meeting he explain he had alot going on between work and his kids that is not a good time for a relationship that we could stay as friend if that is okay with me of course i said yes is not like i have choice…. at that time i got so angry and confused the next day i knew had done something wrong should just got with the flow but know is to late to go back so what im trying to see if i still have a chance is hard to explain the connection a had with him, at this moment he is not calling or testing if i testing he respond but he dont try to keep the conversation so i made the decision to stand back before i keep making more mistake can anybody tell me what to do, do you think i still have chance with him to be more then just friend? june 16, 2012, 6:26 am katy no, unfortunately, or probably fortunately he doesn’t want to be more than friends for now. internet dating over long distance is annoying because it can be quite intense receiving e-mails and nice texts and phone calls and you can often feel as though you know someone quite well. i’ve been through the same thing where i’ve had a really nice texting/ e-mailing relationship with someone across a distance. here’s the thing though, for this to turn into anything real you guys have to hang out in person and unfortunately he’s told you that he just wants to cool it off and be friends. you can look at this in a good way or a bad way. the way you should look at it is that you got back out there and made the brave step to meet people again. you met someone that you clicked with and this was great. don’t let the fact that it didn’t work out discourage you. you have learnt something from this, perhaps you know what you want a little more, perhaps it’s the universe showing you that you will connect with guys again. it’s ok to feel disappointed, just accept that it wasn’t quite right and move on. don’t bother texting him and initiating chats with him if you want more than he does, it will just make you more disappointed in the long run. put it down as a nice experience and move on, there will be many other lovely guys who you will connect with who will jump at the chance to be with you. instead of texting him, make a list of all the lovely things you want to do in your life as a solo girl, think about everything you want to achieve and what you want from the future. only when you are living the life that you cherish will you meet someone that will be worth it. held og lykke! june 17, 2012, 11:25 am fern i have been chatting to a guy on line for about a week he says he likes me and i lke him convertion seem to be short and sweet and not much to them every time him questions ask he dose not seem to answer can anyone help march 20, 2012, 12:48 pm tasy hi there, cld anyone help me pls? i met a guy through online dating. he rang everyday for few minutes before we met up die to his work commitment. had great time met up but only 1-2 hrs. he to me that he wi be busy in next six months n his father is ill. than he flew back home interstate. at first, he rang twice and i tried to call too. texting each other but he didn’t respond most of it at all time. everytime he responded, either “xxx” or dad is sick. hugs, xxx, not good day or stress with dad condition. he is doctor too. very short and simple. he won tell me he love my msg and it cheers him up. when i mentioned that just keep in touch and see u when u are back, he texted me hoping i would not loose my patience than he rang once. i told him i wi be still around. than back to i texted heaps , sometimes no news at all, sometimes only 1 or 2 replied. he told me 2 wks ago he wi be back but dint happen. last friday, he said he will be back in few days but not signs. than he texted me saying would like to fly back to see me n ask which day suits me. till now, no news and signs. hvad skal jeg gøre? should i open up and ask what he wants exactly? he said to me that he misses me heaps and look forward seeing me. should i fly to see him instead? we only met once. and been on texts for 2 months now . hoe someone can help please? thanks heaps may 31, 2012, 11:16 am katy it sounds like he’s in a bit of a bad situation in his life at the moment and there’s no real need you getting too caught up in it all. i was in a similar situation years ago when i was dating a guy who’s mum was very ill. eventually, although we got on really well, he couldn’t maintain a relationship because there were so many ups and downs at home. my advice would be to still be there for him as a friend if he asks for it but lower your expectations for the future. he’s probably not going to be your boyfriend or great love right now, it’s just not the right time but that’s ok. sometimes we meet the right people at the wrong time. just take it as a nice experience to meet someone that you got along with and move on. if it’s right and you guys are meant to be together then forces will intervene in the future to make it happen when he’s in a better place. for now, move on, start looking around at other guys again and just be supportive and polite if he contacts you. held og lykke! may 31, 2012, 11:45 am tasy thanks heaps katy. i actually mailed him after and kinda hinted that i don’t want to keep it going but happy to stay as friend. he didn’t respond to my email but texting saying he love all the messages i sent and it makes him feel close to me although we r 720k apart + lots of xox in once a day text. still in touch with him but keeping messages less intimate but more to friendship. today, he rang out of sudden (last spoken to him was early may). as usual, just wanting to say hi while his dad is better. usual less than 5 minutes call. but this time he got his dad to say hi to me too. i wasn’t prepared for it and not really sure what was going on there. oh ya, he called sweetie and my name by short (texts mostly). could it be i am reading into it too much or he is just appreciate my patience? june 3, 2012, 9:23 am katy i think it’s a tough situation, he obviously appreciates you being there for him and when he has a second to think he contacts you which is lovely. again, i do think that it’s a complicated situation for you to get wrapped up in because it’s so uncertain. for him it’s ok because he calls you when he needs to and gets your support but what are you really getting out of this? his lovely phone calls confuse you and then his silences hurt you. as hard as it is i’d say let go for now, he knows where you are, he has your number, he may be the right person in the future. for now it just seems like it’s stressful for you and you are the person that you should be thinking about. protect yourself and trust that if it’s meant to then things will work out in the future. june 17, 2012, 11:31 am nicole ok i know this guy from work and he gave me his # and we only text eachother for one week we never talk on the phone.he asked me out for a movie but i told him” i dont wanna go out with u bc i think u r kind of a player and ive heard u have all the girls number. ” he was mad at me and said we dont need to talk anymore but i really like him what can i do to make him ask me out again its been three day since he stops text me.i never text him bc i dont wanna b needy will he talk to me again march 15, 2012, 3:56 pm truthbtold you jumped to a conclusion about him before ever giving him a chance. you ttok what other said about him and made up your mind. the guy figured if you already have a negative point of view about him it’s best he moves on. you might have a shot if you maybe like this; hey! i didn’t mean to judge you before i got to know you. i should have not taken advice from others. if you would like to give me another chance i would like to meet you at the movies. march 15, 2012, 5:38 pm marymarymary i hope someone can help me with this. i met a guy on an online dating website. we wrote back and forth for a bit and then decided to meet. we had coffee, talked a lot, had great time. he asked to see me again, went to dinner the following week, talked a lot, had a great time. went out a third time the week after that to see a movie. hung out for 3hrs after the movie talking, laughing. we had planned for a 4th date the week after that but he canceled. he never made a move on me. his texting/emailing had decreased quite a lot since the first few weeks. he never rescheduled the date b/c he has out of town guests (which i have verified to be true). i know it is the beginning stages but i have no idea if he likes me/wants to date me. i’m afraid he may not be interested anymore but doesn’t have the b*lls to say so. any advise? march 11, 2012, 5:48 pm katy i’d say move on, he probably wanted to see if there was a romantic spark between you two because you guys obviously get on well but sounds like there’s no spark his end. that’s fine, leave him to it, don’t bother contacting him. if he contacts you, be polite but leave it there. wait for a guy who is dying to have romance with you from the first time he meets you! march 11, 2012, 6:01 pm elizabeth i recently started talking to a guy again that i have known for years. he used to really like me but i wasn’t that into him at the time and then i did like him years later and he wasn’t into me. recently, we started talking all the time … but the weird thing it’s usually online, we video skype rather than hang out. last night, we started talking about home movies from when we were younger and he said he wanted to see mine. we spent hours gushing over each others home movies. a lot of times things get pretty flirty too. a lot of our friends have noticed what’s going on. i am afraid to say anything too obvious though because of how hurt i felt before. march 5, 2012, 9:31 pm rashell so i’m talking to a guy…been talking to him since october. we’vebeen on dates and got to know each other very well. i never slept with him.i told him about what i have which is hsv. so he says lets be friends. a couple of weeks later, he starts back sending me text messages asking about it and sayig kets be fwb, but used it as a example. so last wekend he starts back sending me text messages. he tells me that he is confused about it but i explained it to him very well. i told him i was confused because of the mixed signals. however, he keeps coming back starting conversations with me. so what shoukd i do. should i give him a chance to sink in. it’s confusing because of the mixed signals he’s giving me help! february 28, 2012, 8:16 pm katy too complicated, too confusing. next! do you want to spend the next few months deciphering mixed signals when you have much better things to do? men who are really interested in girls do not suggest having just a casual thing. you deserve way more than that so wait for someone who appreciates you for you (medical issue or no medical issue), leaves you with no doubt about how he feels about you and has the upmost respect for you. when it’s right it’s really that simple, so move on and enjoy! march 11, 2012, 6:05 pm xx31 here is my situation i met this guy in end of jan 2012, he is 2hrs and 30 min far from me. through the dating site we exchanged numbers and started taking on phone for hours. he called me every day once or twice if i didn’t answer he left me a voicemail. (note we had not meet in person yet)but l like to talking with him on the phone, then we decided to meet feb. 2nd we met for lunch and then watched a movie. he started kissing me and allowed him to because i really like him. he he said he likes me to( he give me compliments like he likes my dimple, my smile, my eyes, he like the way i kiss etc) we kissed in the move theater all time we didn’t watch the movie we just kissed. lol!! after the movie we walked out and he asked me if i wanna have some coffee, so we had coffee and we talked. after he called me and said he really likes me, we text sometime or call and talk on the phone. we decided to meet again and he give me a gift for valentines day. note: this time he wanedt me to meet him in the hotel, in the other city which located half way between him and me. he said he meet some clients there so i said yes. we ended up having sex but we both enjoy it. my point is both of the times we met were on weekdays not on the weekend. both of the times we scheduled to meet on the weekend but he changed it to meet me weekdays.the day we met the second time after having sex we went to dinner and we both headed home. on the way back i text him and said i really had great time and i like him. he replied and said, me to. the next day he called and i didn’t answer. he left me a voicemail and said he missed me and he send me kisses.he still calls me and if don’t answer he leave me a massage and i call him sometimes. my concern is when i call or text him sometimes he never answers or never replays back very soon. i mean i like this guy very much and i want a long relationship with him. how can i find out if he thinks the same way or if he really like me? wwat should i do? a couple day ago i asked him to have lunch together because i wanted to see him ans see if he is okay. i said that i will drive there to meet him and i want to take him out from lunch. he replied : u want to i said : yes. then he said ; i am to far away from you i said :” its okay. he said :i don’t want to put you through that trouble then i said: omg its okay i wanna see you then no ! after 32 min he replied ” baby give to me”..any advice, any thing i need to know, i really like this guy. please help february 28, 2012, 12:33 am katy i can see your dilemma, he was in to you at the beginning, phoning lots and making plans with you. unfortunately he’s just not that into you. it’s probably a combination of the distance and the fact that he sounds like he’s a noncommittal kind of guy. it’s got nothing to do with you. making plans then cancelling them and never wanting to spend long portions of time with you is not the start of a lovely long relationship. he gets to see you when he wants to and live his life when he has other things going on. so really if you look at it from his perspective he’s in the perfect situation. but you however, are not, because you want something deeper than that. my advice is move on, hold out for a guy who would cancel plans to see you, who would drive for hours on end just to spend time with you, who would make it clear and obvious that he’s crazy about you and wants all the same things that you want. you deserve to have all of those things and while you are wasting time waiting for this guy to come to his senses you aren’t going to meet that great person. so live your life, have loads of fun, feel great about yourself and get rid of anybody who isn’t treating you with the respect you deserve. february 28, 2012, 4:11 am xx31 thanks!! kathy well she still calls me text me if i don’t answer he leaves me massage but coz we far. we don’t make plan or he always at work busy, sometime he call before he go to sleep and sometime , if he wake up middle of night. i realy like him also i ask him ! if he involve in any other relation he said no its nothing like that he is busy. but sometime when he call and leave me voice mail he will call back. sometime he do call back sometime not. if i return his call never answer ? i kind don’t get it what his going on february 28, 2012, 10:24 am awsum chick i met a guy from cairo, ga so i thought but turns out he is from atlanta, ga who was the same way. turned out he was married so be careful. those type of men only want one thing and commitment is not what it is. i could not tell he was married he answered everytime i called or texted he called every morning and night all through the day he owns his own business. he would travel 3hours just to ride by my house or just pop up to surprise me out of the blue. we spent alot of time together but he never spent the night he would come up with excuses to leave @ least by 3am everytime. that part didn’t sit well with me and triggered me to start checking on him. i met his family and all we dated for a year +. when i found out he told me he would leave her if i would just talk to him but if he would do that to someone who he made vows with what would he do to me so i walked away and it has not been easy cause i love him and he keeps riding by my house and keep getting my number from friends talking about he is sorry and he misses me but i am a queen and i deserve to be treated like one so we are a done deal. come to find out how he got away with it is i didn’t check him out thoroughly enough and his wife works 12 hours a day with hardly any time off and when she is she is so tired he has a lot of spare time. june 23, 2012, 1:03 am kathleen i was with this guy for the 3rd and 4th of july. we have known eachother since we were 9 but decided to hang out a lot more now that we are older. we really liked eachother and i really liked him. everthing was going great and we watched fireworks together and everything. the next day i had to go home because i lived in ri and he live in ct and i was going on a trip to greece for 10 days. normally, i am very shy when it comes to things like this and i february 14, 2012, 12:25 pm glittergirl i hope someone tell me what they think about this situation.. there is this guy i’ve been talking to at work and just lately he’s been paying me more attention than usual. we both have different religions, he asked me if i would ever consider getting with someone from a different religion. i explained that whilst theres nothing wrong with that, it depends on your family situation and if whether they would be accepting of it especially if decide to go long term with that person. he then asked would i consider being with someone who had come from a different relgious background even though the guy would be willing to convert to my relegion! i replied with something like thats complicated! anyway what i want to know is, was he just testing me to hear what i would say and was he hinting to me that he was interested even though he didn’t ask me indirectly? i find it abit odd how all of a sudden he wanted to know what kind of guy i would get with. we both have good conversations and there is a physical attraction between us although we have never done anything about it! february 2, 2012, 6:23 am miranda okay so this is about my bestfriend. i absolutely love him. but i dont know if he feels the same way. when i came to his house we were playing football and i told them if they hit me with a football i was going to tackle him. he ends up always throwing the ball towards me when i’m trying to talk to my friend. he said why aren’t you tackling me. he’s also a gamer so am i we traded gamer tags… all my friends thinks he likes me because they’ve known him longer he’s usually really mean and stuck up to other people. but i’ve never known him as mean or stuck up. they say he treats me differently. he’s really shy but i still think he thinks of me as a friend. we share everything like food. we make fun of each other we subconsciously match clothing. we have a lot in common. i don’t won’t to ask him out because i’m afraid i’ll lose him. recently i got super mad at him yelled,hit him. i’m usually sweet and petite. he calls me short all the time and calls girls hot right in front of me making me jealous. anyways i got mad at him, he followed me into my class room trying to say sorry. i told him i’m never talking to him again and were not friends anymore. after school he gave me apology letter he’s never done anything like that before and it was in cursive. he said please forgive me (i found out he didn’t do it) because i would hate to lose you and your like my bestfriend. and walked off. i feel terrible and happy he wasn’t mad back because usually guys get mad back but why didn’t he? it makes me think he likes me im so confused.!!!! please because i love this guy to pieces.also his face was red and he looked like he was about to cry when i yelled at him. i would never yell at him ever unless i was serious. i was. i feel terrible and happy at the same time. january 21, 2012, 9:21 am appleblossom i was best friends with someone i’ve known forever. we spent a wonderful weekend together where things went from friends to more and everything was great when we got back. then he started slowing down contact. the other day i told him how i felt. he said he couldn’t say what i wanted to hear and that he didn’t think for a second that he had given me the impression that we were anything more than friends. now he’s completely cut off contact with me and i’ve heard he’s dating someone. its killing me and i can’t stop crying. its ridiculous. i’m 38 and he’s gotten into my head like no one has before. help please! december 31, 2011, 5:01 pm 14 and need help okay.. so, i hung out with my friends brother one day this summer and we were kinda flirting with each other then that night he asked me out..i said yes. we went out for a month and he would always say he loved me then randomly one day he broke up with me and wouldn’t tell me why…. so all the sudden on christmas he chatted me on facebook and said merry christmas.. so we were talking and he said got to go ill text you later.. so that night we were texting eachother…then the next morning he txted me and said like hi wats up and shit like that then he asked me who i liked and i told him i like him (bc i never really stopped liking him but i didnt say that,only said i liked him) and he said he liked me to… so my friend texted him and told him to ask me out and he said k and she said are you going to and he said that he didnt know… so today my other friend said why did u guys even break up in the first place and he said long story and never told her why….how do i know if hes gonna ask me out or not..i really like him and really never stopped liking him december 28, 2011, 2:26 pm katy oh everybody, the sad truth is that usually he’s just not that into you. if he was into you he would call you, get really excited about seeing you, treat you with respect, make sure he gets commitment so that he doesn’t lose you to anybody else . men are actually really straightforward, if they like you they call you and ask you out and treat you nicely. if they don’t then they won’t. the most important thing is to work on your self esteem and what you are willing to put up with. for the people whose boyfriends never want to meet up or make ridicious excuses then they are probably seeing someone else. for the guys who make you feel guilty for wanting him to take you out to dinner, forget them! are you really going to marry someone who won’t take you out to dinner? are you going to be with someone that you can’t be yourself with or trust? think about this logically and think about the best couples you know, all of my friends who are in wonderful relationships are so so happy. the men they are with treat them with the upmost respect and have done since day 1. this is mainly because my friends expect no less than absolute respect. the butterflies that you get from a man not calling doesn’t last, it’s love, respect, honesty and commitment that matters. think about what attributes you really want in a man, what can he add to your already great life? if he’s not adding anything then don’t bother with him. a great relationship is one where both parties are completely happy and secure with themselves and being together is just a massive bonus. i’m not saying that relationships don’t take work but this is what sees you through the years. i’ve been in the situation of being mad about someone who doesn’t call me or doesn’t treat me well and thankfully ive moved on from that. i’ve met some amazing people and my life is full of wonderful respectful friends and family. so make your life amazing and you will attract someone amazing until then keep studying, make yourself happy and ditch anybody that makes you feel bad. december 9, 2011, 9:26 am cancuk this is amazing! really made me feel better about my situation and recent choice to “ditch” him. tak skal du have! january 14, 2012, 6:13 pm 19andconfused okay i have a really big problem. there is this guy at work that is like 11 years older than me and i really like him but i feel like he is sending me mixed messages. first he says he wants to be friends and then he asks me to come to his apartment for a movie. i told him i didn’t feel comfortable with that so we went to the movie theatre nearby instead. we got there and he was all touchy feely and kissing me and then as soon as he drops me off at home it’s back to being friends again. now he’s flirting with me outside of work off and on via text and we talk every now and then on the phone. i can’t figure out if he actually wants a relationship or if he’s just playing with me. what the hell is up with that? he seems like a really nice guy but i don’t know what to do. a little help here, thanks. november 23, 2011, 7:52 pm bodacious urgently in need of advice. we had a buisness meeting with other people and the gentleman that showed up for the meeting decided when he was leaving he stopped by my desk and told me in front of my boss and two other girls, i reminded him of someone he went to school with and next time he came down he would show me a picture of the girl i looked like. needless to say i never seen it and he did mention she was a freind and they never dated or had a romatic rucous. we started talking becasue we had to work closely together but we developed feelings for each other and when we would see each other it was like it took out breaths away. we had this instant connection when we would look into each others eyes and could talk for hours. we had so many things in common that we both seemed to like and we began chatting via txt more indepth. getting to know each other a little better. we went for dinner together chatted on the phone worked closely together but never slept together even though we wanted to. we wanted to get to know each other better. short and condensed he told me he had feeling for me and that he felt he was in love with me and i felt the same way about him. we had spoke about sleeping together but agreed to wait a little longer. a conflict at work with another party insued and the account was lost on our end and we got into an arguement over it and i felt like he knew all along that they were moving the account and stealing my guys on top of it. i accused him of somethings only where work was concerned and knowing and not telinng me. we always had an agreement that our work life would be seperate from what we do as individuals. meaning we wouldnt let that come between us yet it did becasue i felt betrayed yet he said he never knew that they were taking the account and guys with them. anyhow i was really hurt and told him i didnt want to see or talk to him anymore and i greived every day for him for 2 months wishing he would txt me. on my birthday 2 months later he did and we appologized for hurting each other and began to talk again. problem i am having is, its not the same. he will txt me and i am curtious that i respond right away and then he takes hours sometimes a day to respond to me yet he was the one who txt me first. i dont understand. he asked me to go to a hockey game with him and i told him i would. when i asked what game he wanted to see he did tell me the two teams he wanted to watch and i asked him when they paly and he said he wasnt sure and that he was tired and needed to get some sleep. i was fine with that as it was late and two days later he brought the topic up again yet nothing was finalized. then on friday night we were having a really meaningful conversation and he told me that he never stopped thinking about me ever and how much he wants me and i told him i wanted the same thing and that i was here for him. he came back with …when all that stuff went down he felt like he had lost me and it hurt so bad. i appologized to him again for everything that had happened and told him that i never stopped thinking about him for one second when we didnt talk. he said he i am so confused right now. i have to go. i will talk to you later. i promise. i just need to clear my head. well it has been 3 days now and i am not sure if i should txt him or wait for him to txt me. i guess i am wondering if i am wasting my time. he is a taurus and rarely opens up about how he feels and now that he said he is confused i am left feeling that it is over. was he just trying to see how i felt and then disappear or does he have feeling for me. i just want to know what the right thing to do in this situation becasue i do love him but his happiness is more important to me then the way that i am feeling. yet i feel hurt that he hasnt spoken to me in days. what am i missing. november 14, 2011, 11:39 am pricilla this guy that i like(i think he likes me) text a lot(and he usually texts me first) but almost never talk in person. whenever we see each other we hardly talk, but he talks to everyone else. whenever i’m around him and try to make eye contact, he just dismisses that. i really want to talk to him but he makes it seem so awkward. i’m thinking about telling him not to text me anymore unless he starts talking to me face to face more. he’s really nice and sweet and talented and cute but i guess just really shy….i’m just totally confused! : november 6, 2011, 1:22 am fatima i hate it when guys make plans to see you for a secnd date and then totally forget about it!!!! i really don’t understand men period.. november 2, 2011, 10:32 pm ashley o.k. so, here is the problem. i’m a first year college student and i’m 18 years old. i have known this guy for three months after my arrival at college. i met this guy because he is my friends’s roommate. we start hitting things off. everything we have a movie night, we would end up cuddling with all our cloths on in either his bed or mine. we become very intimate and it is very clear that he likes me physically, because he tries to go for my butt and my waist all the time. i like him too, but i don’t know how he feels about me. when we are in public, he acts condescending, egotistical, and says that he “can read me like a book” and he knows that i have a “huge crush on him.” i am an aggressive person and every time we are in public, we argue. i hit him gently all the time because he pisses me off, sometimes i grab his wrist really hard or slap him really hard, but he seems to like it because he has this annoying smirk on his face or does not get angry when i do become violent with him. he told me through text, that he does not like me at all. however, when we are cuddling, things become really intense and he always wants it to take it to the next level and make it even more intense than it already is. he makes it very clear that he is physically attracted to me and i am physically attracted to him. but i have no idea if he is emotionally attracted to me. i do not want this “cuddling” to become something i will regret because i want a full, real relationship, not friends with benefits. he tells me that he enjoys talking to me and that i’m a cool person, but the next moment he is telling me how stupid i am and how insensitive i am. i don’t get him!!! what does he want? how does he feel about me? he always keeps himself aloof and never tells me outright how he feels. i am a straight forward person so i tell him exactly how i feel and why i get so mad at him. i tried confronting him about this, but my brain turns into mush and i can’t come up with a coherent sentence. something about being around him turns me into a moron. it’s soooo aggravating!!! what can i do? i really want to know if he is emotionally attracted to me; like if he likes my personality. i am emotionally and physically attracted to him so i want a full, real relationship, but i have no idea what he wants. he has already told me what to expect from him, but it’s always a puzzle. i just cannot figure him out and i think about him all the time which exhausts me to the breaking point. i don’t know what to do. help!!!!! october 29, 2011, 6:06 pm kim i met this guy on a internet site and we started talking on the phone. we have talked on the phone for 9 months. went for a lunch maybe 4 times in that period. never would take me out for dinner. always was busy or had some excuse that seemed unreasonable. i realize that he had his own business but also know that he didn’t work 24-7. so as time went by i got frustrated and upset trying to make time for us to get together but i always got shot down. we always talked about him and what was going on and he never would ask how things were with me. not being selfish i just thought we would have a two sided conversation. he would say that i would over react when i would get upset about trying to hook up with him. at the beginning i left things up to him but he never done anything with it. we never shared a glass of wine or even a romantic dinner. he would call if not everyday every other day and just talk. as of a month ago i told him i was tired of being a phone friend and that i needed to get on with my life and i couldn’t do it as long as he was calling. i also let him know that is was no longer on my facebook because i didn’t want to know what was going on with him. we have e-mailed and within a month he is seeing someone else. he said the timing was wrong between us. on his e-mail he put a asterick beside the word couples are going on this trip to me. why would he tell me that? i spent 9 months on this guy and i really don’t know what happened. when i would ask him questions he could not give me a yes or no answer. he would answer around the questions. did i do something wrong because i wanted to go out for dinner? october 26, 2011, 9:43 pm natalie why don’t you just ask him out? girls need to let guys know how they feel too. it isn’t a one way street… especially if you feel that it’s something that could last a long time. i dated this guy from russia for 2 months before his student visa was up and he had to go back. he asked me out first, then i asked him out. we had a blast and even though i won’t see him for another year, he still writes me that he misses me. we get to have these conversations because i let him know that i liked him by spending time with him. i just had to be with him and no one was going to make that happen but myself. take initiative. october 18, 2011, 3:10 pm amanda i met a guy in his late 40’s online dating site he is a otr trucker so i was leery. he kept talking about marriage and moving in after only four months of dating. i realized he guarded his phone a lot. i stopped talking to him in march because i felt he was a liar. i now see all he wanted was a place to drop his things off while he is on the road. he has noting but his truck. i found out he found another women that fell for his sob story. she is in for a ride of her life. i was told he owes an ex girlfriend a ton of money. never date a truck driver no matter how sweet he may seems at first. october 13, 2011, 4:56 pm ree i started dating someone through a social network, i have been seeing him for 6months now, my circumstances were very different at the begining health wise and i was restricted in lots of ways, now i am fit and healthy. his first impressions of me were not great i was a bit of a “rocket” his words not mine, but non the less i do have to agree with him. we seen each other a couple of times, him coming over to my area, then it died a death for a few months which i was okay with as i was not ready for any kind of relationship or committment. then he contacted me a couple of months later and we started dating officially, but this meant me going over to him instead of him coming to me, he seems to be driving everything and very keen on me! even introducing me to his family and friends. on my meeting his friends i had a few drinks and denounced him talking about all the things he did that annoyed me and him not going out of his way to visit me, meet my friends/family. i am a very quiet and subdued person and had bottled up a lot of my feelings, i find it hard to express myself, now he doesn’t know how to deal with my outburst and i am gutted about my behaviour, he still wants to see me – but as expected things are not the same between us and i just want to make it right again, i have apologised profusely, we have a holiday booked together soon, my reckoning is that he will dump me after this, i like this guy lots, but he has always told me he doesn’t want commitment, but that we are in a relationship – a very confused woman! looking for sound advice. september 6, 2011, 5:32 pm jeanelle stuart i friended this guy via social network (not mentioning cause im kinda paranoid lol), i thumbed up a couple of his photos and a day later he messaged me, thanking me and if i wanted to go out sometime. i agreed and a week later he came for me and drove us to this place (ended up going 3rd base) week later asked me again, again drove us to this place and we ended up having sex. yes it was fast for us but i didn’t really mind, i mean i liked the guy etc. we met up again that week and again 3rd base. might i add i usually texted him if he’s ok, which he replies with “r u busy?/wanna go out?” then one day i im’d him and he told me that “it’s better to stop going out with eachother for a while” i was like “why?” first he told me that i’m young and he feels bad (about time) then he told me cause he has alot on his mind (after i bitch-slapped him on im)..then he told me that “maybe i’ll be in the future” uh..wtf??…..so…..again week later i texted him “how r u?” he replied back “forget it, i have a lot on my mind and im going out with someone else” i was like wth is wrong with you txted him back with “i only asked you how r u, you didn’t have to tell me what you’re doing with someone else” 2 days later he txted me and he apologised for “scolding me” and that he thought i was trying to get him to go out with me again, i was like “i know what no means” and then he told me “im trying to settle down” big wtf?…….that’s where my confusion is…..does he want to or no? i mean why did he tell me that he has alot on his mind and at the same time telling me that he’s going out with someone else and that he’s trying to settle down? i don’t get him really. i don’t want to be his booty call (probably i was though =/) september 1, 2011, 6:08 pm maria ive been dating a guy for 4mnth now. it was all good at the first he was totally into it like i was. but after cple months he started pulling away and not saying or acting same way. now we still are together but i am a mess thinking he has cheated and done this and done that because of way he acts. he tells me he likes alone time. this last time he got verbally angry and told me to leave him alone or he would be alone everyday. the next day he calls me to come stay night before he goes back on the road. he is a truck driver. we had fun but i seen some texts in his phone saying he was going to dinner with some girl that night and asked his ex gf if she wanted to go. i know he is still friends with the ex. wether i like it or not. he said thats all it is. i asked him if he was seeing anyone next day and he said no. he doesnt cheat and he is not a hipocrit. he left out and i hardly heard from him. he txt only when i txt goodnight and my insecurity got me and i made a joke of him talking to his other girls. he sent a txt explaining he has no other girls, who he texts and that its no more of this again. he will end it right away. then he sent several more texts blowing up at me about us and the fact he prolly only cares just because. he sees it hard to love someone when he and his son doesnt even share love. tells me we have to talk and talk soon. to leave him alone until we talk so he can sleep. i did and i txt cple days later to see what is up with us. i dont want to continue feeling bad if he jus gonna leave. he will answer back but just with everyday talk. tell me have a good day at work or what he is doing. not one thing on if we still a couple or if he decided he didnt want me anymore. he can be a real good guy. i know i have or can be needy and over possesive. he has said before he felt smotherd yet i only see him 2-3 days a month because he a truck driver. my question is do i just go along with what he is doing. just simple conversation and nothing bout us? or do i call it quits? i care for him i just wanna know if im single or taken. thats all!!!!!!!!!!!! july 8, 2011, 1:58 pm kelly maria, don’t let him fool you. my friend met a truck driver hewas all about her yada..yada..he had another lady in the next town and one in another state. he played them all. the guy was flat broke looking for se and a place to crash now and then when he made it into town. don’t let him back into your life he’s playing mind games with you. be strong dump hi.. september 22, 2011, 5:23 pm ellenoa hi munequa, i think he is being selfish. he wants you to give him what he wants and disregards what you want. i say you try to cut off the time spending with him without telling him since he will out talk you everytime you tried talking to him. speak with your action. lots of love july 8, 2011, 3:53 am munequa i met this guy at work 2yrs ago. hes divorced,raising his 3daughters and has a job that requires constant missions. i know hes has his priorities straight when it comes to work and kids activites. what i cant figure out is if he really cares for me??? ok here it goes… weve started dating the end of january have been to the movies 3x, dinner 1 and spend time at his home cuz he does nap alot on the weekends. now i had mentioned to him that we can be friends, seeing that he has such a hectic schedule but he refused and said he didnt want to loose me. we are both reserved him more, he txts during the day and calls me once a day as hes heading home. he doesnt drink, smoke, or goes to clubs or bars. he doesnt socialize with co-workers because he doesnt want to give anyone reason to talk. he spends time at home, working out, wrking on his side job. he will take about 5 hours to call and always falls asleep. hes never asked me to be his girlfriend but the first time i decided to stop dating him he got really upset and said i broke his heart and he knew id leave him for someone else which was not the case. i told him that i did want to continue seeing him but that i didnt get the impression that he really cared. he got happy. he does make sure that i take vitamins & eat right and always says that as long as im his, he will make sure to take care of my body. i went to the movies and he got upset that i didnt invite him but i feel if he knew i was going then he sould have just gone, right? he doesnt want me talking or hanging out with guys. he did mention that he is a jealous person. he texts me that he misses me, that i make him feel good. we are great when it comes to intimacy. he cant stop touching me, or holding me when we are together. whe are at the movies and he will hold my waste and kiss me so sweetly. i just dont know if he really likes me or if hes in it for the sex? he avoids confrontation or rather not talk about anything that can turn into an argument. when i bring it up later, all he says its a new day and says forget abt it. i know he has trust issues cuz his wife cheated on him. he is so reserved but not when we are in bed. i dont know how to read him or what to think. i told him last week i just wanted to be friends and he doesnt want that. he asks if im seeing someone else or is afraid to loose me. he wants me to tell people im dating him and hes made comments that he likes me more than i think. i dont know what to make of this. i told him that i would stop seeing him if i didnt see a change in us. he told me that he doesnt want me being with guys or to lecture him about what bugs me. i just wish he could make the effort of spending more time with me and take the innitiative to ask me out more. i really like him but i cant figure him out. can anyone help? may 3, 2011, 3:46 pm nevver there’s this guy i have liked since we were teenagers. i am 30 now. he never seemed to pay me any attention, so we were never more than friends. more than a few years ago we started hanging out, and decided we wanted to see each other. circumstances caused us to seperate. we forgot about each other and moved on. i ran into him again a few weeks ago. i immediately felt the old attraction stir up. we exchanged numbers and began to conversate again. on one very emotional and revealing night, we both admitted that there is a real and unforfilled need between the two of us. when i asked him why he never pursued me like he wanted me, he said it is because i was always moving so fast and in other relationships. he told me i have always been independent, fine, and on top of my game. he even went on to say i am the kind of woman he would settle down with because he knows me, and he knows i’m about my business. he said the problem has always been he could never figure out why i dated the guys i did date, and leave guys like him out to dry. i told him i dated the guys i have chosen to date, because the guy i have always wanted did not want me. i made it clear that had he given me the time of day from the beginning, there probably would never have been anyone else. that’s how deep the attraction runs. i told him i always went for the other guy, because he always seemed so disinterested. it was all so bare. we both agreed we have always been intimidated by, but attracted to each other at the same time. he’s sexy. he’s also a no-nonsense kind of guy. he got his stuff together. so how can he possibly be intimidated by me? anyway, we also agreed we need to make this official and see where it leads. that was day 1. this is day 5. i have only talked to him twice. i am not desperate, but we are not strangers. we are not breaking the ice. it has already been established we have a lot to work on, and we both want to work together. so, where is he? why doesn’t he call? when i do talk to him, it’s as if he’s been holding his breath to hear my voice. but, he won’t pursue me. i want to hear his voice. he is aware of that. i am excited by him. why is he still so aloof? i’m not a braggart, but i have always been an attractive lady. i am a go-getter, and i’m not afraid of life. men wish they could have me for themselves. why is this one so hard to get? does he even really want me at all? or does he just tell me what he thinks i want to hear? if so, then why? april 21, 2011, 4:14 pm freyer i met this guy three days ago and i thought that we really hit it of. we texted for a couple of days taking turns in who started the conversation. but know i have to casually start every conversation and he isnt ing. today we are ment to meet up with some other friends and he seemed realy excited…am i being to needy and annoying?? april 20, 2011, 10:15 pm angel i was dating this guy long distance and never done this before but i fell in love. well i accused him of seeing someone else and he didnt talk to me for 2 days. now i asked him wuz up and he told,me he was so sirry and has had alit on his mind. and yeah he wants to be together byt has alot going on. what does this mean? march 24, 2011, 9:13 pm taylor okay so i have a question for you guys, i have been talking to this guy for a little over a week now, and he kept asking me to go over to his shop and hang out with him and his friends. we started talking about relationships and he told me that he likes girls who are willing to chill with him and his friends and he pretty much described me. i am currently living with my mom and dad while my place is being redone, so i have to ask my mother if i can go out and she finally said yes last night. so i went and chilled with him and his friends, it was a lot of fun, ithought that he liked me and everything, at the end of the night he held me for a little bit and we kissed i asked him about hanging out this friday at a new years deal he said yes then he said something about going on a date this weekend, which makes my heart skipped a beat, but its 230 pm and i still haven’t heard from him. he normally texted me all day while at work, i dont think he doesn’t like me but i have heard that he is a player and i just dont know if things will work out or not. i am hoping he is just busy at work and will text me as soon as he gets the chance to but he didn’t even send me a good morning text like he normally does. december 29, 2010, 4:40 pm abbi well i have been talking to this guy for 2 months now. we even have a class together. i don’t try to be needy but i try to get his attention. he says he likes me without me even asking n he knows i like him but what’s taking him so long to ask me out? i haven’t wasted all my time on him. i’ve made him jealous by making him think i have more options in guys (which i do, alot actually but they just aren’t the same) but he just isn’t realizing that i want him n not them. idk what to do? december 12, 2010, 4:51 pm brigette so, i went to see this new band play with a friend. her boyfriend plays in the band (drummer) and also in the band there was a hot bass player that i was interested in. me, my friend, and another girl danced in the front row all night while we watched them play. i never got to meet the bass player and never brought him up to my friend. the next time i went to see their band play with her again (a month later), my friend’s boyfriend (drummer) told my friend that she should introduce me to bass player because he “has been talking about the hot brunette girl for a month (me)”. we were introduced and we all went out after the band played. bass player got my number and waited 4 days to text. in that same time period of 4 days, i was talking to my friend (who’s dating drummer) and drummer asked her while i was on the phone with her “when were me and bass player were hangin out again”. the 5th day was my birthday, and he told me that they were playing that night and that i should come celebrate and watch the show. i told him that i had dinner plans with some friends, then we might stop by. we ended up going and bass player was happy to see me. he told me that he wanted to take me to dinner the next week. he never asked about it the next week but was texting me. i always would let him initiate the texts. the following weekend he picked me up to go out with him and some friends to see another band play. we had a lot of fun and danced together. he told me that he was sorry that he never brought me to dinner and wanted to reschedule (he brought it up). that happened on a sat. and he waited to text me until wednesday to see what i was up to. that following weekend was this past weekend and he went out of town for a football game (college). he texted me all weekend. he said that he wanted to reschedule our date. nothing has happened yet with that but he’s been texting me and telling me that he’s attracted to me. i saw my friend’s boyfriend (drum player) while i was with her this past weekend and he brought bass player up and said that bass player really likes me. the two of them are really good friends and grew up together and im pretty positive that he wouldn’t bring bass player up if he wasnt interested in me. what is the deal here? is he just trying to figure me out or what is going on? – confused october 27, 2010, 10:28 am eric charles yeah, isabella gave you some tough-love there, but she’s 100% right. august 17, 2010, 12:25 pm isabella katora- get a clue, dear! he is playing with your head !! some men like to have what i call a pantry full of backup jars to feed their ego’s and make them feel desirable. or just in case their current relationship falls apart and they need someone to run to. if you have never seen him in person it’s because 1. he can’t he has a gf/wife 2. he doesn’t want to. and as far as his fb status…lmao.. he was the one who changed it prob at her insistance. if his neices changed it for him, which i doubt, then how do they even know who this girl is unless he is dating her? if it wasn’t true then he would have changed it back to single, but he couldn’t..because that would have upset the gf. just to be clear here., you do not have a relationship with this guy. what you have is an online flirtation that will go nowhere. if you want to continue to be used to feed this jerks ego, the choice is yours. personally, i would fire his ass and delete him asap. find yourself a real man and don’t waste time on selfish little boys. if a man doesn’t treat you with kindness and repect, leave him in your rearview mirrow. sorry to be so blunt. august 17, 2010, 7:43 am katora hello, right now i am debating if i should try to make my relationship workout. i have never seen him in person before but we have seen each other through facebook. in the beggining he was making plans to see me, and we talked at all hours on the phone everyday. everytime we were close to seeing each other something happened. then a week ago he said he went over his cousin house so once that happened the calls and texts slowed down alot. now he catches an attitude or stands me up saying he has to work or he is tired. during all of this he still trys to say he do care about me and he dont want anyone else but me. a few days ago he says he didnt put a girl on his facebook page as his woman but it clearly says on facebook he is in a relationship with her. he said his nieces have his password and did that. what do i do??? april 14, 2010, 12:27 pm ana actually i too same the same similar problem but in my case he would ask me out but then cancel on me with all sorts of reasons.then finally he made it for one date.i really like this guy so i told him that i liked him. he said that he too likes me but is afraid of relationships and not confident about himself but he told me to continue talking to him. after 1 month, he has to me that if i talk to him or see him everyday i would feel more him and he asked to not. so i told him if that’s what he wants i wouldn’t talk to him anymore or chat with him anymore. he said ok. since i totally stopped communicating with him and moved on with my life but after 3 months like that, he comes back to me saying sorry and he wants things to be normal and that he missed me alot. so what does this mean?? please help me november 6, 2009, 12:54 am